Talk to the person that you like in real life.

Ask them out or let them know how you feel about them.

Using dating apps as a backup is misleading.

It gives you an excuse not to do anything about the person that you actually like in real life.

You allow yourself to become distracted with the dating apps.

You chat with random people that you aren’t all that interested in.

All the while, your mind remains fixated on that person that you like in real life.

You can’t stop thinking about them.

Yet, you haven’t done anything about it.

You haven’t asked them out or told them about how you feel about them.

What is it that is holding you back from making a move?

Is it the fear of rejection?

That is the most common fear that people have when it comes to dating.

People are terrified that the person they like won’t like them back and that rejection is imminent if they were to make a move on said person.

Try not to allow this fear to keep you from taking action.

You have been unable to give anyone that you have met on dating apps so far a fair shake.

When a person’s mind is consumed with thoughts of someone else, they aren’t emotionally available to anyone else.

You are emotionally unavailable.

It doesn’t matter how long you toil on dating apps or how many dead-end conversations you participate in, you won’t become emotionally free to anyone unless you do what needs to be done to resolve your current turmoil.

Rejection is part of the game of love and romance.

Being rejected doesn’t mean that you are unlovable, a failure or ugly.

When people get rejected, it often has nothing to do with them as a person.

The person of interest is already in a relationship or is at a place where they aren’t ready for a relationship.

None of this has anything to do with you.

Even if a rejection has to do with the person not finding you attractive, you shouldn’t take this personally either.

This doesn’t mean that you are ugly.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, the old adage goes.

You weren’t attractive to this particular person but someone else thinks different.

People have different tastes.

Think about the people that you find attractive.

You clearly don’t find everyone that you come across in the world attractive.

You have your own tastes just as others do.

The comfort in all of this is in knowing that there is someone out there for everyone.

Take solace in that.

Make a move on this person that you like and get this lingering state of uncertainty over with.

The sooner you discover whether they like you or not, the sooner you move forward with your life.

Stop hiding behind dating apps.

Using them as backup only results in you wasting your precious time and that of others.

You won’t be emotionally available to anyone until you resolve your current turmoil.