A Guy That I Met On A Dating Website Cancelled Our First Date An Hour Before And Wants To Reschedule. Should I Give Him A Second Chance?

A Guy That I Met On A Dating Website Cancelled Our First Date An Hour Before And Wants To Reschedule. Should I Give Him A Second Chance?

Being that something unexpected could have truly come up an hour before the first date, you should give this guy the benefit of the doubt and give him a second chance.

However, be mindful of how he goes about rescheduling this date.

This guy that you met on a dating website has to make the process of rescheduling easy.

You shouldn’t be the one who is doing all the work.

Being that he was the one who cancelled the first date, the onus is now on him to do everything in his power to make this up to you and reschedule the date to a time that is convenient for you.

A guy who truly wants to reschedule a date with you and is being sincere about it will give you multiple solid dates that he is available.

This is often a good way for you to determine whether this guy is worth giving a second chance to.

He may tell you something like, “Sorry about this. Can we reschedule for tomorrow at 6 pm? The day after that will also work for me at the same time. Any of those days work for you?”

A guy who cancels a date with you unexpectedly but truly wants to see you will give you solid dates of availability that will often be very close to the date of cancellation.

This is how you know that he is trying to make this up to you and he is still excited about getting to see you.

If this guy were to give you a vague rescheduling date in telling you something like, “Sorry about this. I should be available in about a week or so.”

This is not good.

This is not a guy that you should give a second chance to.

First of all, he should be the one giving you specific dates of availability and trying to see if those dates would work for you.

You shouldn’t have to start trying to fit yourself into his schedule by now feeling the need to ask him, “Well, do you think that you will be available on Friday next week?”

This is you doing all the work when he should be the one who is really doing all he can to make this cancellation up to you.

Secondly, when a guy reschedules a date for an uncertain number of days into the future, there is no sense of urgency on his part to see you.

This means that he is giving himself wiggle room to postpone the date even further into the future if he so chooses.

A guy who truly wants to go on this first date will reschedule for a date that is definitive and close, not to a date that is into some vague future.

You shouldn’t allow yourself to fall prey to a guy who may just keep rescheduling on you and never follow through.

Though this guy cancelled the first date an hour before, he will often demonstrate that he really does want to see you if he were to call you to reschedule the date as opposed to text you.

Calling you to reschedule often indicates that he really wants you to understand that this first date is actually important to him.

By speaking to you verbally, he is being a lot more personal.

This is often when you know that giving this guy a second chance may be worth your while.