Hi Lou,
Yes, it does sound like she was never into it.
Flaking on lunch at the last minute was not a good sign.
Even her follow-up statement, “I might have to do dinner please,” wasn’t all that strong of a request to reschedule to a dinner date that night.
The signs were already there that she was never truly interested in pursuing anything romantic with you.
The first three times that she was in town, she never told you that she was.
You had to text her, “Are you alive? Just checking on you,” after the third time that she ignored telling you that she had been in town.
Again, these were already very strong signs that she wasn’t really interested in seeing you.
The last time she is in town, which was last week, the both of you make plans to have lunch.
However, it takes her hours to let you know that she wouldn’t be able to make it to lunch and that she might be able to do dinner instead.
When you replied by telling her that you have things you have to do that night, she didn’t bother responding.
Again, this would indicate that she really didn’t care to meet you all that much.
She is used to getting attention from guys and may have enjoyed the attention that she was getting from you for a while.
However, her actions have shown that she may have no further interest in you than that.