Hi Monique,
You are being played in the sense that he wants to have someone at home that he knows is waiting for him.
However, he is more concerned with his career and other aspects of his life than he is with you.
You have already told him about how you feel and he circumvented the question by saying, “emotions are being thrown around.”
He responded in this way because he is essentially trying to buy time with you and avoid commitment in the process.
Again, he likes the fact that he has someone waiting for him whenever he gets back into town for intimate company and he wants to keep it this way.
If you are looking for a committed relationship, you should walk away.
Staying in this situation will only make you become more and more emotionally attached as time goes on, to no avail.
It is unlikely that he is feeling emotionally attached but is just unable to explain it.
If this was the case, he would have shown some emotional vulnerability to you when you let him know how you felt.
However, he seemed to circumvent the topic in a way that showed that he lacked emotion and empathy.