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Actually I’ve had this problem once before during my bachelor’s course. There was this guy whom I had a crush on who started showing interest in me too but since we were in different classes we had never talked to each other.
He was also an outgoing guy but he stared at me for months and never approached me. He had also told all his friends about me and they used to tease him whenever I was around. The situation was very similar to this one. I don’t understand why this keeps happening to me. Any time I show interest in a guy, he just can’t approach me even generally I never get approached or asked out although a lot of guys show interest in me and find me attractive. All they do is stare at me.
I’ve only been seriously interested in these 2 guys and both the guys kept acting shy and nervous around me and nothing happened. It doesn’t help that I’m also shy when it comes to interacting with guys I’m interested in.
What you’ve suggested is something that has happened once before in the library. Our mutual friend had called him over to sit with us (she was hoping that he would talk to me) and his friends also came over then.
So when he was talking to the mutual friend, I tried to join in on the conversation, but he immediately stopped talking then (even though he was the topic of the conversation) & just kept staring at me & then started fiddling with phone & didn’t make eye contact with me. His friends also joined in on the conversation & were teasing him about me but during the whole time he just kept stealing glances at me and didn’t say anything to me.
Yeah it will take a few tries to finally make him comfortable but I actually don’t know if this whole thing would be possible considering we have different time tables.
My best friend had actually suggested that he would talk to him about me (they greet each other every day) and try to make him comfortable or even ask our mutual friend to talk to him again about me. But I wasn’t sure about this.