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Luke
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Hi Patricia,

Although you are new to online dating, experiences like this are helpful in getting you to form the good habit of tempering your expectations so that you don’t get carried away with any one guy too prematurely.

It is suspicious that he never let you know about Friday. You had to contact him after the fact to get an explanation. He didn’t even have the common courtesy to contact you to explain himself.

If you hadn’t contacted him about not hearing from him on Friday and throughout the weekend, there is a chance that he wouldn’t have set up another date with you.

When suspicious behavior like this happens, it’s normally because something better came along that he couldn’t pass up. It could have been another date that he was more interested in attending.

He isn’t entirely sure just how well that date went and now he has made yet another tentative plan to meet up with you this week so as to keep his options open.

A man who is truly interested in seeing you wouldn’t have forgotten about Friday.

Although part of you still wants to meet him, be careful. You aren’t his first option. Make sure that you are also keeping your dating options open by going out on dates with other men that you are meeting on the dating site.

This week, the onus is on him to make this date happen. You should avoid trying to reach out to keep him aware of the date. If he truly wants to meet you, he will remember and plan something out.

Meanwhile, keep yourself open to meeting other dates this week. They should be your priority. If you aren’t this guy’s priority, he certainly shouldn’t be yours.

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