Hi Abigail,
Yes, this does happen to a good number of people on dating apps. The guys who give excuses or unmatch you when you request a 10-15 minute phone call don’t believe that they will be able to carry on a good conversation with you.
It’s a lot more intimidating for them to talk to you over the phone than to meet you in person. Meeting you in person gives them the opportunity to use their physicality to seduce you.
Conversation on the other hand is a different story. It’s a lot harder for them to think of ways to keep a conversation going than it is for them to simply give you the flirty eye and flex an arm muscle if they were to meet you in person, while hoping to hook up with you by the end of the date.
Their poor conversational skills is often why they ask you out after only a few hours of conversation on a dating app. They are capable of using simple conversation openers but anything beyond that is beyond them. It’s also why they don’t want to entertain the idea of talking to you on the phone for 10-15 minutes.
They don’t have those conversational skills and know that the sooner they are able to get you to meet them in person, the sooner they are able to use their physicality to woo you.