Hi Eleanor,
When there is a really significant difference in the information that you both provided in your dating profiles, there is a higher likelihood that the guy settled.
Most people who are serious about looking for a relationship partner are normally going to look for similar interests and experiences.
When you match with a guy on a dating site and his dating profile has very little in common with your own in terms of interests and experiences, there is a very good chance that he is settling.
He is desperate and is just liking or swiping right on as many dating profiles as he can in the hopes that someone like you ultimately gives him a chance.
On the flip side, if you get a match and notice that both of your dating profiles have a lot in common in terms of interests and experiences, there is a good chance that the guy is selective with who he chooses to match with.
As far as messaging, if the guy is only looking to hook up, he is going to be a lot less inclined to be selective in who he chooses to message, as long as he finds her attractive.
You are able to weed out these types of matches by talking to them for a while and asking good questions that delve deeper into who they are as a person.
Normally, guys who are only looking to hook up are impatient and want to meet you in person very quickly. When a guy is asking to meet too prematurely, there is a good chance that he is only looking to hook up.