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You can do everything right on a date and still never hear back from the date again. No matter how well you got along on the dating site, it doesn’t guarantee that the both of you will have real life chemistry when you meet in person.
Yes, this is a frustrating part about online dating, but it makes sense. There is a lot more to a person than what you see on a dating profile. What looks good on paper doesn’t always transfer to real life chemistry.
This is just something that is very much an online dating phenomenon and you don’t really have that much control over it.
That being said, if you are constantly finding yourself in the position where you do everything right online and on the date itself and you are still never hearing from your dates again, the issue is most likely with you.
It’s time that you stop being so perfect.
You are so intent on being the perfect date that you are giving your date the impression that there isn’t much else to you, or if there is, that you are hiding it. Don’t be afraid to let loose on a date and be who you are.
Obviously, don’t get carried away. But, just be more open and risque with how you express yourself. Stop being afraid that if you aren’t proper and rehearsed on your dates, that your date will lose interest in you. This may be what is turning off your dates.
You aren’t making them feel like you are a human being with actual flaws. If you come across as too perfect, your dates will often either see you as bland or believe that you are hiding something.