January 18, 2020 at 2:50 pm #39275
So I am employed at a tech company, and there’s a young manager (about my age) on another team, who stares so intensely at me. I’m new to the job and hardly noticed anyone as I was preoccupied with getting the ropes of the job. But his staring has been so intense that I’ve noticed him.
He doesn’t smile, and he once stopped mid-opening a door to stare at me right in my eyes as I walked past.
I’m wondering if he won’t approach because he’s a Manager, or because he’s taken, or because he’s not interested.
I would really appreciate your input.
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Click here to help answer someone else's question.January 19, 2020 at 11:35 pm #39279
There may be some concern on his part about the fact that he is a Manager when it comes to the likelihood of approaching you.
However, that may not be the main reason why he hasn’t approached you.
Also, if he is taken, he is most likely not all that into his partner if he is capable of stopping while he is in the middle of opening a door just to stare at you right in the eyes as you walked past.
The root cause of his intense stares may have a lot to do with him trying to figure you out. That may be why he never smiles. He could be contemplating you and what you are all about.
Until he has figured you out, he may continue staring at you intensely for some time. However, when he does figure you out, he may either choose to approach you or decide against it if he feels that he wouldn’t be compatible with you.