Do I give up?

[Erica]

I’ll try to keep this short, but I’m having a tough time dealing with this issue. But…I feel like I should tell you a little bit about myself to help you understand the issue.

My name is Erica, I am a junior in college and I am one of those people that HATES sharing my feelings/emotions. I never even tell my closest friends or family members. I am scared. Scared of rejection, being laughed at or not taken seriously. And I guess that is the reason why I have never had a serious relationship before.

Well end of last semester I met this guy and he remembered me from one of his classes that we apparently took together. He said he thought I was extremely attractive and just never had the chance to talk to me. So we started talking. We hung out at bars together and we had so much fun. I would meet up with him, but we never really got that far lol. We have the same sense of humor and love making jokes.

Fast forward to this summer, we continued talking. We Facetimed 3/4 times a week for about 3 hours each time. He would call me “babe and I can’t wait to see you. We are going to have a great year together.” I met his parents through FaceTime, he has talked to my sisters on the phone. He mentioned dating me.

All of this shit. But…he would throw things in saying “I have 3 girls that Im talking to” blah blah blah. And I would say I don’t care (cause I didn’t mind that much) and then he would be like but I want you to care.

So this went on for the whole summer. Now back at school, we aren’t talking.I cut him off.

Because he took a girl home, right in front of me. I confronted him and he said that he didn’t do anything.

I told him that I liked him and he responded “I don’t want any drama and think we should be friends” “Sorry for leading you on” LIKE WHAT?!?!?!

He texted me later that night saying that there are feelings there but he won’t say I like you to me. So I cut him off.

Should I have done that? I really really really like the kid and its been only a week and I just want to text him, call him, see him and hang out with him.

HELP ME WHAT DO I DO??

[Robbie]

It sounds like he is the non commital type of guy https://youtu.be/jZ6RdEr31yQ. Given he was dating multiple women. It’s hard or even impossible to change other people’s feelings by asking them, you have to demonstrate why he should change his feelings. Maybe by dating a new guy and inadvertently showing that you don’t need him. Reaching out to him may push him away further at this stage I would suggest giving it some time. It may feel daunting but shift your focus from him to yourself. If you think about him catch yourself and shift your thoughts back to how great you are! Before you know it he might reach out to you, or you might end up with being with someone who doesn’t treat you like a number.

You can do it!

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