No Contact Rule

[Josh]

Hi Luke

My crush has friendzoned me and I am applying the “No Contact Rule” on her. They say it is a good rule to make her miss you more.

But is viewing her Snapchat story breaking that rule? Or is it ok?

Would appreciate a reply.
Have a good day.

[LukeKeymaster]

Hi Josh,

Yes, if you view the Snapchat story of this crush who friendzoned you, you are breaking the no contact rule.

The idea of the no contact rule is to give the other person the impression that you have completely forgotten about them and moved on with your life.

This means that, they can’t have the sense that you are still snooping around and trying to see what they are up to.

If they feel like you are still snooping around, they will not really have the opportunity to start missing you because they will know that you are still around.

If you have decided to apply the no contact rule, you will have to go all in for it to have any chance of working.

This means that your crush can’t get any kind of impression that you are still looking them up or thinking about them.

This also applies to mutual friends that the both of you may have.

You can’t be talking about her to them.

If you do, one or more of them could inform her about it and then she will know that you’re still asking or talking about her.

Again, this defeats the purpose of trying to get her to miss you.

If you want to effectively apply the no contact rule, you should avoid all mentions of her to mutual friends and make sure that you stay away from her in every capacity on social media.

[Josh]

Thanks Luke for the reply.

Does eye contact break the no contact rule?

And what do I do if she sends me a snap? Do I open it?

[LukeKeymaster]

Hi Josh,

Yes, eye contact breaks the no contact rule.

Remember, the idea is to give your crush the impression that you have completely forgotten about them and no longer care. As far as you’re concerned, they don’t even exist.

If she sends you a snap, you should not open it.

By not opening it, you will make her start wondering why you are seemingly ignoring her.

These are the kinds of thoughts that may start making her worry about her relationship status with you.

If you are able to also show that you are building new relationships with, preferably, other girls, through your social media posts, this also could help tremendously in making her feel a sense of competition and stakes.

Seeing this alone on your social media posts could be what makes her decide to unfriendzone you out of fear that she’s about to lose your attention and adoration.

[Josh]

Thanks Luke

But would it be better if I open the snap she sent me and then I don’t answer her. I leave her on open.

This way I show her that I am “actually” ignoring her.

What do you think?

[LukeKeymaster]

Hi Josh,

It would be best not to open the snap that she sent you.

Yes, leaving her snap on open without answering it may give her the impression that you are ignoring her to some extent.

However, if you were to keep opening her snaps without answering, she may get the impression that you are playing a game with her.

This may actually make her upset.

She may decide to retaliate by ignoring you entirely.

If this happens, you would have given her the motivation to start ignoring you because she would believe that you are playing some kind of game with her.

This may defeat the purpose of getting her to start missing you.

An effective execution of the no contact rule is when you leave her constantly doubting herself about what is happening between the both of you.

If you make it too apparent that you are actually trying to ignore her, it may make you look weak in her eyes and she may start ignoring you as well just to spite you.

That is the danger of using a strategy of opening a snap but not answering it.

The no contact rule is not about you desperately trying to “show” her that you are ignoring her.

It is about you not acknowledging her in any capacity whatsoever.

Again, if you try too hard to “show” her that you are ignoring her, she may simply decide to return the favor out of spite.

This emotional response will not leave much room for her to start missing you.

[Josh]

Thanks Luke

Do I ignore “all” her snaps? Or should I sometimes open them? If I ignore all her snaps she might never send me agian.

What do you think?

[LukeKeymaster]

Hi Josh,

Yes, you should ignore all her snaps.

You shouldn’t open them at all.

If you are applying the no contact rule, risking the possibility that ignoring her snaps will make her choose to stop sending you snaps altogether is part of the equation.

If you are too worried about this happening, you may not be ready to apply the no contact rule.

[Josh]

Thanks Luke,

When should I text her back again? And what should I tell her?

[LukeKeymaster]

Hi Josh,

Don’t worry about when you should text her back again.

Just allow this no contact rule strategy that you are using to play out first.

If you develop the mentality of wondering about when you should text her back again, this no contact rule strategy will not last very long.

In other words, you will not have the patience to give this no contact rule strategy the amount of time it requires to see whether it actually works.

Also, don’t worry about what you should tell her.

There is a good chance that if this no contact rule strategy works, you will not even have to worry about when you should text her again or what you should tell her.

In essence, at this point, she would be the one both initiating and leading the conversation.

[James]

Hi Luke and Josh

I was reading this interesting concersation and it was really helpful.

But let us consider that I locked eye contact with that girl because she was passing in front of me. She passed in front of me all of a sudden a few times and I had locked eye contact.

Does this break the no contact rule? And should I start from day one?

Or is it ok becuase she just passed by me and any girl who would do that would lock eye contact.

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