What is it with men I meet on dating apps who don’t want to have a phone call before a date?

[BrooklynParticipant]

I recently started dating again. Have had some interesting experiences with online dating. There is something that I am repeatedly noticing about many of the men I match with. They don’t want to talk on the phone before meeting up. What is up with that?

[LukeKeymaster]

Hi Brooklyn,

Many of the men that you have met on dating apps who don’t want to talk on the phone before meeting up on a date don’t feel comfortable doing it. They aren’t used to it.

We live in a digital world. In this day and age, most people text, email or instant message each other.

Phone calls are reserved for emergencies, setting appointments, talking to aging relatives or perhaps a handful of close friends.

With less vocal conversation on the phone and more finger clicking conversation being the norm in today’s world, many men lack the confidence to conduct a good vocal conversation with a woman who at this point is still essentially a stranger to them. They believe they are more in their element when they are able to talk to said woman in person.

Also, many of these men believe that talking on the phone before meeting up on a date is yet another unnecessary step in the process of discovering whether you are both a good match. They believe that skipping the phone call and meeting in person provides a much better opportunity to find out if there is true real life chemistry between both parties.

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