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SamanthaA co worker that I have a crush on is single however, he was in a long term relationship awhile back and isn’t ready to begin another relationship. I completely understand. He wants to work on being just friends for now and maybe something more can develop later on. The problem is I’m too shy to have a conversation with him. He told our mutual friends at work that I never talk to him and he wants me to talk to him more but we never can get to the point to actually have a conversation. We do have some small talk here and there but that’s all. I’m an over-thinker and I feel that if he really wanted it talk, he’ll approach me and start to engage in a conversation or exchange numbers or whatever to communicate better. I don’t want to be the person to do that first because then I’ll start to feel that I’m chasing him. It’s like he’s waiting for me to make the move and I’m wait on him. My friends tell me that I need to talk to him and stop being so scared but I’m just shy. I get so nervous around him and I don’t know what to say, and I keep having that thought in my mind that “if a guy is interested, he’ll do the work” so that is another reason why I’m so hesitant. What should I do ?
Hi Samantha,
It may be easier for the both of you to talk to each other over an extended period of time if you were both not at work.
Oftentimes, workers hang out after work to unwind. Find out if he has a crew that he hangs out with from time to time after work.
If he does, find out the next time that they are all going to be hanging out after work and get your own crew of work friends to accompany you to wherever it is that they will be meeting up.
Meeting each other outside of work may help to move things along. It puts the both of you in an environment where you can both relax and ultimately talk in a much more elaborate and free manner.
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