You have come across online dating profiles that state that the person won’t date X race or X person with a disability or X person of a certain nationality, etc.

In your mind, this is redundant.

All the person has to do is swipe left on people that they aren’t interested in.

You are wondering why some people go the extra mile in putting racial preferences and exclusions on their online dating profile.

This makes you suspect that people who are going the extra mile in putting these preferences and exclusions must be signaling that they have a personality that is racist or hateful.

This is unattractive to you.

You wouldn’t want to date someone like this even if you met the preferences that the person has set.

You have a disdain for people who come off as racist or hateful in personality towards other demographic or disadvantaged groups.

The people who have dating profiles that specifically have these race preferences and exclusions feel the need to go the extra mile in including them as there are a lot of dating sites and apps that don’t offer those filters.

People have preferences.

That is reality.

Your vision of the world may be to inhabit a space where people aren’t excluded based on their race, disability, nationality, language, etc., but that isn’t reality.

Most people have preferences in who they want to date and ultimately marry.

That’s just humanity.

In general, people are attracted to others that look like them, with a similar background and way of thinking.

This is programmed in humans and has been that way for generations.

Yes, a world where we can all hold hands and sing “kumbaya” is what many who are more progressively-minded envision.

But that is not reality.

That is not human nature.

Are there truly hateful people who put these race preferences and exclusions on their online dating profiles?

Yes.

However, many of the people who do put these race preferences and exclusions believe that they have been left no choice but to do so.

Again, many dating sites and apps don’t provide the option for these people to choose these preferences that are absolute deal breakers for them.

They have been messaged by multiple people who were not of the race, physical disposition, nationality, etc., that they preferred.

This has caused them to become more creative with their preferences by going as far as stating them in their dating profiles.

If more dating sites and apps provided these filters, many of these people wouldn’t resort to stating their preferences in their online dating profile.

Not all of these people are hateful.

They just have a preference.

Your argument is that they don’t need to state those preferences on their dating profile, they should just swipe left when presented a match who doesn’t meet their preferences.

People get a limited number of matches on a dating site or app.

A person with race preferences and exclusions doesn’t want to waste their matches.

By putting their race preferences and exclusions on their dating profile, they are hoping to keep people who don’t meet those preferences and exclusions from choosing to swipe right on them.

When people who don’t meet those race preferences and exclusions read those requirements, they are less likely to try to match with the person or message them.

This way, the person who put those race preferences and exclusions increases their chances of mostly getting matched with people who meet their requirements.

This is how they get around the fact that many dating sites and apps don’t offer these preferences as filters.

You may not like the fact that people have these preferences, but with many dating sites and apps not offering these filters, many of these people believe they have no choice but to state these preferences in their dating profile.

Not everyone who has a preference is racist or hateful.