Online dating isn’t necessarily that much harder for men.
The men who often have a hard time with online dating are the ones who forget that online dating is no different from real life dating when it comes to landing a girlfriend or a hookup.
They just have this notion that online dating is the oasis of dating prospects and hookup potentials.
Hence, when they join an online dating site, they think that it will all be so easy.
When a man starts online dating with these kind of preconceived notions, he is almost always going to have a much harder time of it.
He is expecting women to be falling for him so fast and hard.
He is expecting women to see his online dating profile, swoon with raw intensity and send him a ton of messages.
It doesn’t take long before he realizes that desirable women aren’t bombarding him with messages.
He soon gets desperate.
He starts sending out a ton of generic messages to desirable women on the online dating site only to be met with silence or the occasional response that typically doesn’t go anywhere.
The men who believe that online dating is that much harder for men are often the men who have this kind of approach to online dating.
Again, they believe that simply because they are now on an online dating site looking for a match, this completely eradicates the social norms when it comes to attracting or courting a woman.
For the most part, women still approach online dating with the same expectations of men that they have in real life dating.
They expect the man to do the majority of the pursuing and messaging.
They expect the man to show genuine interest in them and take the time to ask pertinent questions of them.
They expect the man to be a gentleman who doesn’t try to force a romance or hookup prematurely.
Yes, there are some women who become emboldened when online dating and may try to do something out of the social norm.
For instance, some will initiate a message to a man. However, even these women still expect the man to pursue her.
They hope that he initiates more messages than they do as the conversation progresses between them on the online dating site.
Hence, even the women who go against social norms in deciding to initiate a message to a man on an online dating site will still expect him to lead the way when it comes to courting her.
Again, a lot of men forget this or simply choose to become blissfully ignorant about it.
They have to learn the hard way that women that they meet on an online dating site are no different in terms of their expectations and behavior than women that they have met in real life.
Just as women tend to receive a lot more attention in real life from the opposite sex than men do, that is also what happens in online dating.
The reality in online dating is that a lot more women get initial attention from men than the other way around. But again, this is how it is in real life as well.
To win with women in real life, you need to know how to play the game and avoid coming off as too eager.
This often requires patience and an understanding of what makes women responsive to your advances.
This is no different than online dating.
The men who understand this are often the ones who have a lot of success in online dating.