You are doing something wrong.

Sending out 60 messages on an online dating site should have gotten you a few replies.

The fact that you got 0 replies would indicate that you are doing something wrong. Hence, it is not normal to have this kind of result.

You should take a good look at the kind of messages that you have been sending.

Did any of those 60 messages address something in the person’s online dating profile?

In other words, did you send any messages referencing something you found interesting about that person’s online dating profile and even asking that person a question about it?

Oftentimes, when people send these many messages the way you have, they never took the time to truly send a personalized message.

The majority of your 60 messages, if not all, may have been totally generic in nature.

Messages like, “Hey there,” or “Great profile,” are not going to work.

They are very generic and boring.

They send the message to the recipient that you took no time out to truly read their online dating profile.

Being that you never referenced anything about the person’s online dating profile in your message, the recipient will also get the sense that you are most likely sending the exact type of message to other people.

That makes them really feel like a number and that they are nothing special.

This is not where you want your recipient to be mentally.

You should want them to be excited about your message and consequently intrigued about who wrote it.

This is why you need to ensure that your messages are personal and substantive.

One of the most effective ways to address a person’s online dating profile is to ask them a question about something on it that they seemed to write about with a lot of passion.

It could have been a trip that this person made to Europe.

It could have been a class that this person took.

It could have been a sports team that this person loves.

Passion is your cue.

Proceed to send a message in reference to this area and you could even relate to it by telling that person about your own experience with it.

Obviously, this is only if you have had the same kind of experience.

You shouldn’t be dishonest with this.

If you were to be dishonest and thereby give this person the impression that you have had a similar experience, this may come back on you in the future in a bad way.

If you were to engage in conversation with this person on the dating site or off of it and they were to reference that particular shared experience, you may have no idea what more to say about it because you made it up in the first place.

This person may even sense that there is something that isn’t quite right with your response even though it seems like you are saying the right words.

In other words, you may seem fake in your response or manufactured.

This is never the impression you want to give this person.

Hence, your best option is to always be honest in your messages on the online dating site.

If you can’t relate to that situation, merely ask a question about it.

That is easily enough to get the person intrigued enough to respond to your message.

If you go about sending messages on the dating site in this way, you will get much better results.