With such a depressing text, you aren’t sure about how to respond or if you even should.
It doesn’t feel good to have gone on a first date that you thought turned out well, only to receive a text letting you know that he wasn’t feeling a spark with you.
Don’t allow this to beat you up.
Sometimes, a first date seems to work out just fine.
Both of you laughed the whole time, made really good eye contact, flirted and even held hands.
You left the date thinking about the second and how much you were looking forward to seeing him again.
Then, you receive the dreaded text letting you know that he thought you seemed nice, but he didn’t feel that spark.
In a way, it feels like you have been misled emotionally.
You can’t think of anything that you did wrong during the date.
You instigated and held conversation well.
You exhibited proper dating etiquette by minding your manners.
So to speak, there was no chewing with your mouth open or sticking your finger into your mouth trying to dig out a piece of food that got stuck.
You really behaved yourself.
Yet, you receive a text like this.
Respect his decision.
It can be hard, yes.
You were really hopeful about this guy.
Statistically, when online dating, the majority of people who meet each other on a first date never meet for a second.
You are in popular company.
Don’t take it personally.
You aren’t on an island and there isn’t anything wrong with you.
He didn’t feel a spark.
He had something in particular that he was looking for.
For some guys, that particular feeling is nonnegotiable.
It is how they felt when they met their last girlfriend who eventually broke their heart by leaving them.
Some guys are so determined to experience that feeling again that they don’t allow themselves to give any other type of feeling a chance.
They are trying to recreate that magic.
Not everyone you meet on online dating sites is entirely over an ex.
Even though they know that the relationship is over, they try to recreate that relationship by seeking out a person that gives them those familiar feelings.
A guy who is stuck on finding someone who gives him the same emotional spark that his ex girlfriend did is blinded by a desire to get back to how he felt when times were good during that relationship.
It is better that he sent you a text saying that he didn’t feel a spark when he did.
If he was to continue going out with you in a desperate attempt to discover whether you are capable of giving him that same spark, which some guys do, you would get strung along.
That is the last thing you want.
Be grateful that you got that text this early.
Being strung along emotionally takes a toll on your mental health and general disposition.
You don’t need that.
You are trying to find a life partner, not someone who messes with your mind and emotions.
You really don’t have to respond to that text.
What has been said, has been said.
Maintain a positive attitude and keep going on dates.
Persevere and a second date with a better match is inevitable.