Online Dating: On A First Date, Is It A Good Idea To Provide Compliments On How She Looks Or What She Is Wearing?

Online Dating: On A First Date, Is It A Good Idea To Provide Compliments On How She Looks Or What She Is Wearing?

It is perfectly fine to provide compliments on how she looks or what she is wearing on a first date.

You just have to deliver those compliments in a way that doesn’t make her feel as though you are looking at her like she is a piece of delicious meat on a slab.

You no longer have the luxury of hiding behind the static photos of your online dating profile.

You are transitioning from the virtual landscape of an online dating site to a real life venue for your very first meeting with her.

This real life transition requires a shrewd awareness of your body language.

As you compliment her, if you are looking at her up and down, licking your lips, as though you can’t wait to pounce on her, that works against you.

You should be looking at her in the eye when you give her the compliment.

It is not a good idea to take your time looking her over.

The manner of your delivery is everything.

Taking your time in looking at her appearance or lingering, easily makes her feel like she is that piece of delicious meat hanging on a hook in the freezer that you are about to devour.

This makes her feel incredibly uneasy before the first date has even really commenced.

You need to watch your body language when you provide her with these compliments.

Look her in the eye as you compliment her.

Do not take the eye contact away to some other part of her body.

You don’t want her to feel like she is being examined.

Stay on her eyes.

This keeps you at your best behavior and allows her to feel like you are not only complimenting how she looks or what she is wearing, but you see her as a human being.

It is a good idea to provide compliments on a first date.

Guys mess up by acting on two extremes.

They are either so worried about coming off as too overeager to please, they stop themselves from providing a compliment, even though they really want to.

Or, they get too excited and try too hard to score points with her by giving her too many compliments, with a body language that makes the woman feel like he is envisioning what it would be like to peel all her clothes off and have his way with her.

Don’t be either one of these extremes.

A happy medium is your best spot.

Contrary to what a lot of nervous guys on first dates believe, women actually do want to be complimented on a first date.

Many guys don’t understand the amount of work a woman puts into going on a date.

Even if she is wearing an outfit that seems fairly mundane, she put a lot of thought into it.

She put in some quality time into getting her hair and makeup done.

She put in some thought into her footwear and whether her toes should be exposed or not.

Yes, it goes that far.

If she decides to expose her toes, she now has to do the work in making those toes and feet look presentable with the right manicure and nail polish.

Women put a lot of thought into how they look when they are about to go on a date.

With all that thought and work put into their appearance, they are happy when a guy acknowledges how good they look upon meeting on a first date.

The guy taking the time to acknowledge their effort scores points.

He just needs to deliver the message in the right way.