You should send the first message.
If you have come across the dating profile of someone that intrigues you on an online dating site, you should send that first message instead of waiting on them to do so.
The mistake that people often make is in when they procrastinate on doing this.
They may be intrigued by someone’s dating profile but choose not to send the person the first message because of whatever reason that they concoct in their head.
They make themselves believe that the person may not respond to their first message.
They make themselves believe that the person may not even bother reading their first message.
They even make themselves believe that the person is simply too far out of their league and thereby, sending this first message would be an automatic rejection.
Try not to fall into the trap of making excuses as to why you shouldn’t send the first message.
You truly don’t know how this person will respond if you were to send them the first message.
You really don’t.
Indeed, they may choose to ignore the message entirely or just not respond to it.
However, they may also choose to respond to it.
Again, it is best not to make a prejudgment on what this person will do.
You truly don’t know unless you try.
When people procrastinate on sending that first message, they often keep returning to that person’s dating profile.
They keep returning to it because they cannot get this person out of their mind.
They are intrigued by the person.
They want to learn more about them.
They want to know if there are any common threads between them.
However, they just can’t get themselves to send that first message quite yet.
They are just so worried about how that person will react to the first message.
They have now spent some time thinking about this person in their free time.
They may have already created all kinds of scenarios in their mind about what a conversation with this person would be like.
The more they fantasize about this person, the larger this person becomes.
It becomes that much harder in consequent weeks to send this person the first message because they have now built the person up in their mind to a very unrealistic level.
This is something that you shouldn’t allow yourself to do.
No matter how perfect you believe this person to be due to what you saw on their online dating profile, do understand that they are just as human as you.
They have their good and bad days.
They make mistakes.
They have fears.
They have insecurities.
They can become irrational.
They can be selfish.
In essence, they have all the attributes that plague every single human being.
When you are able to look at this person as a human being with all of the good and bad that comes with that, it will be easier for you to send this first message.
Don’t put this person on a pedestal.
Send them the first message and let things fall where they may.