Ask for a date when you feel that you have spent a sufficient amount of time getting to know this person that you met on an online dating site.
Oftentimes, you will have a good sense of this based on all of the information that you have already gathered about this person so far and the information that you have also divulged about yourself.
You will often know when to ask for a date because you would have gotten to the point where you no longer have the preliminary internal questions that you may have had at the start of your interaction with this person on the online dating site.
When you first started communicating with this person on the online dating site, you may have wondered if you had anything in common with this person or what the person’s outlook on life was.
You may have wondered about how this person feels about important real life themes like friendship, family and morality.
You may have now gotten to the point where you have a really good sense of how this person thinks and what they are about.
This is normally the point where you should ask for a date.
The danger in waiting and simply continuing to communicate on the online dating site would be that interest could soon wane.
People who are online dating often make the mistake of waiting too long to ask someone for a date.
They just get to a point where they have gotten so comfortable with communicating with the person on the online dating site that they become fearful of breaking that pattern.
They worry that if they were to ask for a date, the other person may feel that this would be too presumptuous and thereby stop communicating.
They get to such a comfortable place with this person that they just become so fearful of disrupting what they have built so far by asking the person for a date.
You should not make this mistake.
The problem with waiting too long is that the other person will eventually lose patience.
They may have been waiting for you to ask for a date for weeks now and you haven’t.
As a result, the person may tell themselves that you must not be interested in them romantically.
Perhaps the only reason why you have kept up communication with them for this long is because you just want someone to talk to or you just want a friend online.
With this mode of thinking, this person begins to shut themselves off emotionally until they no longer see you as a potential romantic partner.
By the time you actually get around to asking this person for a date, they would most likely turn you down because they are no longer interested in you in a romantic sense.
This is why you shouldn’t take so long to ask for the date.
If you have spent some quality time getting to know this person and you feel that your initial internal questions have been answered, you should ask for a date.
Try not to be so worried about doing this or think that you will ruin your interaction with this person if you ask for a date.
If you have truly built some good rapport with this person, they are most likely already hoping that you will ask them for a date.
When someone has been this consistent in communicating and has contributed in making conversations fun, that person is most likely romantically interested.
Hence, you shouldn’t be fearful that you will get turned down.
If anything, if you ask for a date and this person doesn’t say yes, it may be because they want to spend just a little bit more time trying to get to know you.
That means that you could still end up going on a date with this person at some point in the near future.