People often feel like they can find better when they are online dating.
They keep searching because they believe that in finding someone as good as you on an online dating site, they can find someone even better.
This is often what happens to people who are so intent on finding that perfect mate.
When they have said that they have found the one in you, they may truly mean it at that particular time.
In their minds, you have fulfilled every requirement that they are looking for in a romantic partner.
They may be truly content at that point.
However, once they have spent some more time away from this moment, they will often start taking more of an account of your flaws.
They didn’t realize it at the time that they said that they’ve found the one in you but they are now worried that you have a particular character flaw.
It may be in the way you addressed a certain issue that was being discussed at some point in the past.
It may be in the way you ate your food at the restaurant on one of the dates that you both went on.
Yes, it can get that petty.
Now that they are taking a solitary moment to reflect on what they said to you, their minds are beginning to come up with flaws in you that they never acknowledged until now.
They begin to get nervous about these flaws.
They wonder if they spoke too soon about having found the one in you.
They get more and more nervous when they think about all of the expectations that you must now have of them.
They worry that they will now have to focus all of their attention on you when they are already doubtful about whether they have indeed found the one.
Perhaps they should have held off in saying that they’ve found the one in you.
This internal monologue is what ultimately leads them back to the online dating site in order to keep searching.
They may not be entirely willing to let you go.
They have put in some time and effort in you.
They may not want all that time and effort to have gone in vain.
However, in the back of their minds, they know that they aren’t satisfied.
They desire someone better.
They have to believe that there is someone better on the online dating site.
Notwithstanding, until they find that person, they will most likely not cut you out of their lives completely.
People like this will often stay in contact with you in some fashion.
Though you can clearly see that they keep searching, you may wonder why they are still staying in contact with you.
They continue staying in contact with you because they don’t want to run the risk of someone else taking your attention away from them.
They will only feel content in completely letting you go, if they are able to find someone else to take your place.
They are truly hoping that they do.
Hence, they keep searching, even though they have said that they’ve found the one in you.
This can become an endless cycle for people who do online dating in this way.
By declaring that they have found the one, they will often automatically trigger the need to find flaws in that person.
If you have come across someone who said that they’ve found the one in you and yet keeps searching, it is best to stop communicating with this person.
This person is so caught up in perfection that no one that they meet will ever satisfy them.
It gets to a point where it becomes more about the search for perfection than the search for love.