You can choose not to reply to that message.
You are not obligated to reply to it if you aren’t interested in the person.
Oftentimes, people who use dating apps make the mistake of thinking that they have to reply to everyone that messages them, whether they are interested in the person or not, out of courtesy.
You shouldn’t make this mistake.
If you were to reply to everyone who messages you on a dating app that you are not interested in, online dating could become a job to you.
This is especially true if you receive a lot of messages.
The last thing that you should want to do is put yourself in a position where using a dating app becomes like work.
If you are receiving a lot of messages a day, you may even start dreading logging into the dating app because you know that you will have a bunch of messages from people that you aren’t interested in and yet feel obligated to respond to out of courtesy.
This could lead you into burning out on dating apps and online dating in general.
This would be unfortunate.
You may have been able to find the right match for you and yet here you are absolutely dreading the idea of logging into your online dating account.
This is never a position that you should allow yourself to get into.
Remember that you are using a dating app for your own reasons.
Whether it be to find a long-term romantic relationship or something else.
You are on the dating app because there is a particular type of relationship that you are looking for.
This has got to remain at the forefront of your mind.
You are not on the dating app to appease people or make people feel better about being rejected.
That is not your job nor your concern.
If you start getting caught up in how people would feel because you didn’t respond to their message of interest, you could make your online dating experience very cumbersome.
Again, you are not responsible for how these people feel.
You are responsible for trying to get out of online dating what you came into it for.
That is really it.
You are not responsible for the feelings of those that you aren’t interested in on a dating app.
Understand this very clearly.
Again, people often make the mistake of believing that they have to respond to every message that they receive on a dating app, including those that they aren’t interested in, out of courtesy.
Don’t make this mistake.
Now, if you feel that you do want to thank this person for their message but politely let them know that you aren’t interested, you must exercise caution.
Oftentimes, people that you send these kind of courtesy rejection messages to will respond to them.
Some may be polite and thank you for the message.
However, others may become belligerent and respond with a message wanting to know your reasoning.
Never get into the weeds with people like this.
The moment that you receive a follow-up message like this, you should avoid responding to them and block the person.
These are the kind of people who simply won’t take no for an answer.
If you were to get in a back and forth argument as to your reason for not being interested in them, you could make your online dating experience miserable. It is simply an argument that you will not win.