Even though she believes that all she is doing on dating sites is talking to people, she is exposing herself to constant temptation.
In telling you that her only motivation in being on dating sites is to “just talk” to people, she absolves herself from the idea that what she is doing is inappropriate.
The guys she talks to on dating sites aren’t of the same mind.
Considering she is on a dating site, this isn’t all that surprisingly.
A dating site is primarily designed to bring people who are looking for hookups or committed relationships together.
These men she talks to on online dating sites are interested in either hooking up with her or making her a girlfriend.
That is the reality of it.
It doesn’t matter how much she makes out to you that all they want to do is talk to her as well, with no ulterior motives.
This isn’t their intention.
A guy that talks to her on dating sites isn’t intent on “just talking” to her.
Dating sites aren’t platforms for “just talking.”
Guys on dating sites are looking to connect with girls on dating sites for hookups, dates, and relationships.
She wants to believe that all she is doing is talking to these guys and it is all platonic, and that these men are of the same intention.
Sadly, this isn’t true.
As long as she is using matchmaking sites to “just talk” to these men, she is making herself susceptible to the ulterior motivations of men looking to hook up and men looking for romantic relationships.
A man looking to hook up perceives she is emotionally vulnerable, priming him to take advantage of her through cajoling and seducing.
A man looking for a long-term relationship is intent on listening to her, making himself available to her emotionally, aspiring to one day take her out on a date and woo her from that point on.
Either way, none of this bodes well for you.
If this is a girl you thought you were dating exclusively, think again.
Be sure to talk to her about the nature of your relationship with her before assuming that she is your exclusive girlfriend.
When you make an assumption that you are already in an exclusive relationship with a girl without talking to her about it first, you are risking disappointment.
If this is a girl you are wooing, and there has been no discussion of exclusivity, she is well within her right to keep talking to men on dating sites.
Although the idea of talking to men on dating sites isn’t all that pleasant to hear, she isn’t doing anything wrong, considering she isn’t exclusive to you.
Be aware that these men she talks to on dating sites are fulfilling her emotionally at this time.
Meaning, any belief in exclusivity with this girl is in dire jeopardy.
It doesn’t hurt to keep your dating options open too.
By putting all of your romantic hopes on this one girl, you are inviting heartbreak.