It feels right to give up online dating.

You haven’t received the results you wanted as a user of a dating platform.

You have done your profile, written your bio, and posted photos, and yet, nothing.

Women aren’t matching with you.

When you do receive the occasional match, she doesn’t message you.

Upon initiating a message to her, she doesn’t reply.

All of this has only made things that much more frustrating for you.

To this end, you want to completely give up online dating.

Even though your love life in the real world wasn’t great, you weren’t going through this much rejection.

Considering that you haven’t approached any number of women in the real world to the extent that you have on online dating apps, you have kept rejection in the real world to a minimum.

The whole reason why you chose to sign up on matchmaking apps was to avoid the rejection and give yourself an opportunity to connect with someone.

That has all fallen flat on its face, given how bad your time on dating sites has been.

Consequently, you want to give up.

You don’t think you can handle waiting for weeks just to finally get a match who chooses not to respond when you send an opening message.

It makes sense that you want to give up online dating when you have expended so much time and energy into it and not gotten much out of it.

The first step is to understand what your level is in physical attractiveness.

Although as human beings we are superficial in how we go about choosing a mate, online dating takes it to the next level, given that it is a photo-first medium.

Guys on dating sites often make the mistake of swiping right on profiles of women who are way out of their league in looks.

Is this you?

Regardless of what your friends and family have told you about how handsome you are, that isn’t a true litmus test of whether you are.

The litmus test is in how much attention you receive from women.

How often do girls look at you in admiration or approach you in public?

If these incidents rarely occur, if ever, you aren’t as good-looking as you think you are.

The truth is, good-looking guys crush it on dating sites.

Women are picky in who they choose to swipe right on, as they only do it 5 to 7% of the time.

Men, on the other hand, swipe right on 40% to 60% of profiles they like.

Basically, good-looking men receive as many as 20% more right swipes than other men on dating sites.

If you aren’t part of this minority of men, you aren’t as attractive as you think you are.

This said, it doesn’t mean that you have to give up on online dating sites.

The good news is that the majority of men are average-looking.

The business model of dating sites isn’t sustainable if average men aren’t getting matches on dating sites and finding relationships; take solace in that.

Nevertheless, the average-looking men who succeed in online dating are the ones who are more realistic in their approach.

He primarily swipes right on profiles of women who are closer to him in attractiveness.

Also, he has a long-haul strategy for online dating.

He knows that he won’t find his right match overnight.

It takes time.

During that time he continues to rework his dating profile to keep it updated by posting more recent interesting photos of himself doing fun activities, adding more information about himself in the questionnaires, including new personal anecdotes in his bio, etc.

The average man who is consistently improving his profile and proactively using about 3 dating sites simultaneously finds a match that leads to a relationship in 9 months.