A partner that is active on a dating platform is cheating on you.

It doesn’t matter whether he has met any woman he has matched with in person or not.

Even if all you have seen are a few message exchanges between him and a female match, this doesn’t excuse what he has done.

An active profile on a dating site is a strong indication that he is in search of intimacy with someone else, whether it be emotional or physical.

He has kept his activity on a dating site from you so as to have his cake and eat it too.

While he was continuing to date you, he was actively using a dating site with the intention of matching with new women.

Regardless of whether he only intends to talk to these women online with no intention of ever meeting them in real life, it is cheating.

Whenever he engages with any one of these women in conversation online, he is getting emotional support from her.

This would be an emotional affair, which is every bit as egregious as a physical affair.

The truth is that there is no excuse for his activity on a dating site.

It’s deceit.

Given that you are emotionally invested in him, you are susceptible to believing whatever excuses he gives you in the event you confront him.

A popular excuse that cheating boyfriends give is that they are only on a dating site to find friends.

Not true.

He can just as easily find friends in the real world or on other online platforms that are better designed for finding friends.

Dating sites are primarily for those in search of romantic partners and hookups.

Because you have feelings for him and he knows what buttons to push to make you feel empathetic, you are likely to give him the benefit of the doubt if you confront him.

This is because you want so badly to believe that his intentions were sincere, and that all he was looking for were friends on a dating service.

He wasn’t.

Once more, there are other more-suited online platforms designed for making friends outside of dating sites.

It goes without saying that you must break up with him.

That said, you shouldn’t confront him in your current state of mind.

You are still very much in your emotions right now, which makes you the most vulnerable to being manipulated by him, as he makes excuses for why he is active on a dating site.

Best believe that he will say whatever he has to so as to get you to overlook having found him out.

Instead, get out of your emotions for a while by finding a quiet space.

Take some time to gather your thoughts without allowing your emotions to get in the way.

Once your emotions have cooled, take preemptive action to erase him from your life.

If you have any of his stuff at your place, gather all of it up and put it in a box.

It is critical that you do this first, before confronting him about his activity on an internet matchmaking app.

By preemptively putting all of his personal items in a box, you are proving to yourself that your emotions have calmed and you no longer see this man as being a part of your life and your future.

Your mind is already set that your relationship with him is over.

When he comes over tonight, have his boxes ready outside your front door.

Don’t allow him into your apartment.

Instead, talk to him at the door, telling him that you are aware that he is active on a dating site.

As he proceeds to lie to you about what he is doing on a dating site, raise your hand kindly, smile, and tell him that the relationship is over.

Close the door and be done with him forever.