Although you are aggrieved about how hard it has been to get matches and dates on dating sites, it isn’t a waste of time to use them.
Yes, as a man, you won’t receive anywhere near as many matches as women do on dating sites.
That is a reality that is nonnegotiable.
As a gender, women are perennially pursued, and that isn’t any different on dating sites.
That said, you stand a much better chance at receiving matches on dating sites by creating a great dating profile.
Take the time to write a descriptive bio and upload a significant number of well-taken photos of yourself.
This is the lion’s share of the battle on dating sites, and you would be surprised at the number of guys who don’t do this properly.
A guy that haphazardly puts his profile together with little thought about creating one that captures the eye and captivates the senses, is literally asking to be ignored on dating sites.
Women are drawn to adventurous photos of men doing fun activities.
This makes her imagine partaking in said activities with the man.
When all his photos are of him at mundane locations such as his living room, bathroom, back porch, etc., there is nothing to be excited about.
I get it, you aren’t much of a photographer.
You, and lots of other men.
That said, since you are choosing to use dating sites, your photos must be done with an intent to capture the attention of women.
You set yourself apart from men on dating sites by posting photos of yourself outdoors, as you are doing fun activities.
What activities do you love to do in your free time?
The next time you are doing these fun activities, have a family member, friend, acquaintance, or kind stranger take a photograph of you.
Make this a routine act.
Before you know it, you have a library of photos of you indulging in the fun activities that you love.
Post these on your profile on dating sites.
Additionally, write a great bio.
You set yourself apart from men on dating sites when you are descriptive.
In other words, give her a vivid perception of what you write, as opposed to merely stating it.
Instead of writing that you are fun or funny, describe a fun activity you did recently, or tell a funny joke.
That is the key to creating a bio that sticks out.
With this level of detail applied to your bio and photos, women are taking notice of your profile and swiping right.
Don’t celebrate quite yet.
Your job isn’t done.
There remains the task of how you message her.
This is where men fail miserably on dating sites.
Lazy and generic messages such as, “Hello,” “Hey,” “Howdy,” “How are you?,” won’t do anything to motivate her to respond to you.
Instantly, you lose her interest even though she swiped right on your profile.
Don’t send generic messages.
Send messages that relate to information in her profile.
Use this information to ask her an open-ended question in your message.
In doing this, she knows that you read her profile, and this, along with the open-ended question you are asking her, sets you apart from other men.
She not only replies to your message, but she is prepared to have a prolonged conversation with you, which has the potential to culminate into mutually agreeing to meet on a date.