Online dating sites and apps have changed the dating scene for the better.

This doesn’t mean that they don’t have their issues.

Issues such as fake profiles, subscription autorenewals, and a scarcity of background checks.

Yes, online dating sites aren’t perfect.

Notwithstanding, they do more good than bad.

These platforms have led to countless marriages, friendships, and business connections.

The dating scene has broadened as a result of internet dating sites and apps.

People are no longer relegated to their finite social circle or community when they are searching for a partner.

The power of online dating sites is in their extensive reach.

Whether it be citywide, statewide, countrywide, or worldwide, there is limitless opportunity to connect with someone that best matches what you want in a potential partner.

This didn’t exist when online dating sites and apps weren’t around.

The dating scene has expanded thanks to online dating sites and apps, giving people of all creeds, ethnicities, nationalities, socio-economic levels, etc., the contingency to connect with their right match.

This makes the dating scene better, not worse.

Unfortunately, popular culture denigrates online dating sites and apps.

These platforms are used as a punching bag for everything that is wrong with our dating culture, and blamed for every ill in the world of dating.

Whenever there are complaints about the superficiality of dating, online dating sites and apps are repeatedly blamed.

Popular culture points the finger at dating sites and apps as the source of the superficiality we see in dating.

In addition, these platforms are blamed for our pervasive hookup culture, the proliferation of narcissists in our society, our entitlement mindset, and the list is endless.

It’s easy to blame online dating sites and apps for all the dating woes that exist in our society.

Yet, it is human beings who use online dating sites and apps.

The platforms themselves aren’t puppet masters.

They aren’t forcing people to act a certain way.

People act as they do on online dating sites and apps on their own volition.

These online platforms do not control people.

Instead of blaming online dating sites and apps for all the dating woes that exist in our society, it’s far more practical to look at the behavior of people who sign up on these platforms.

Online dating sites and apps merely reflect human behavior.

Such a massive reach lends to the amplification of said human behavior.

These online dating platforms are technically a bunch of computer code, adapting to the behaviors of the human beings that use them.

If more human beings cared about avoiding superficiality, ghosting, lying, hookups, etc., these platforms would reflect that.

The difficult truth is that online dating sites and apps shed a blinding light on human nature.

As a society, we aren’t used to such a blinding light.

We are used to our poor dating habits staying hidden.

There were no online platforms back in the day to reflect our bad behavior in the dating scene.

We don’t like the fact that online dating sites and apps have brought out some of the worst parts of human nature in regards to dating.

As a result, popular culture blames the online dating sites and apps, instead of addressing the elephant in the room.

It is much easier to blame these platforms as the source of all our issues in the dating scene, while absolving society from any culpability for what ails it.

Seeing these platforms as culpable for all the dating woes of our society is akin to blaming the messenger for bringing unwelcome news to the king.

Don’t blame the messenger, blame the doer.