Keep in mind that this guy fell in love with you based on who you were presenting yourself to be on the dating service where you were matched.

Since you love him too, all you want is for him to look past the false information you provided on your dating profile.

Nevertheless, that is not realistic.

Irrespective of how much you two have fallen in love since you were matched on the dating site, he fell in love with the person you portrayed yourself to be.

That means that the information you included on your profile, your photos, etc., all played a role in him choosing to match with you and ultimately fall in love.

He has become excited about you. He is thrilled at the thought of finally getting to meet you in person.

He is expecting you to look exactly as you appear in the photos that are posted on your profile.

He is also expecting that the information you included in your profile is true to who you are.

It is under this impression that he is looking forward to meeting you in person.

He thinks you are someone that you are apparently not.

This isn’t a factor that can be easily ignored upon meeting you in person.

When he realizes that you catfished him, it shatters all of the expectations that he has already established about you in his mind.

Whatever it is that you used to catfish him with, whether it is your looks, background, religion, education, or all of the above, his vision of you is about to be completely shattered when he meets you in person and discovers that he was catfished.

Once this realization occurs, he isn’t thinking about the hours-long conversations he had with you on the online dating site and any other platform you have used.

He isn’t thinking about all the areas where you found common ground with each other during those hours-long conversations or how often you made each other laugh.

Not at all.

The moment he realizes that he was catfished is a moment that renders him immobile.

He is so flummoxed by the subterfuge that he will need a moment or more to gather himself.

This is completely unfair to him. Regardless of how lonely you were before matching with him on a dating site, that doesn’t excuse the catfishing.

All this selfishness ended up doing is drawing an innocent person into its web of deceit.

An innocent person who was as lonely as you were and thought that he had finally met someone who was his real match.

After all, choosing to match and communicate with someone who lives long distance is no easy feat.

Yet, he chose to do it with you because he thought that you were who you were presenting yourself to be on the matchmaking site.

Unfortunately, that wasn’t the case.

The best way to redeem what you have done is to be upfront and honest in letting him know in what manner you misled or catfished him.

This doesn’t mean that he forgives you and continues to still love you.

Rather, it means that you are showing him a degree of respect by telling him the truth so that he doesn’t find himself traveling all the way to see you only to be stunned that you misrepresented who you are.