A dating site isn’t a replacement for any personal deficiencies you have in regards to making romantic connections with potential partners.
If you have behavioral issues that has led to repeated failure in making romantic connections with prospective partners in the real world, that won’t change on account of joining a dating site.
Whatever behavioral issues that have hindered your love life in the real world is sure to persist in the online dating world.
An inordinate number of people think that joining a dating site is the answer to the hindrances of their personal oddities and drawbacks, several of which have caused the failure of several courtships and relationships in the real world.
Usually, after they spend some time on a dating site, they discover that each person they match and interact with suddenly disappears after a short while.
Even when they get as far as meeting the match on a date in person, they never hear from the match again once the date is over.
A dating site is not the panacea for your behavioral issues, should there be any.
Should there be a deficiency in your personality that has led to a love life in the real world that has resulted in failed courtships and relationships, fix that deficiency first.
You are doing yourself a favor by doing this first.
It saves you time and disappointment.
In the event you choose to join a dating site without doing the work on your personality issues beforehand, there is a reverberation of what you have already been through in the real world.
It’s inevitable that the behavioral deficiency becomes a factor as you interact with a match.
Especially when you already know that this is a behavioral deficiency that has shown itself in the real world time and time again whenever you take an interest in a guy, costing you the potential of having a healthy relationship with said guy.
I am fully aware that the idea of working on a behavioral deficiency doesn’t sound sexy.
After all, you just want to get on with it and find a match.
A life without a partner is lonely, and you want to have someone to share your bed with at night.
Believe me, there is nothing wrong with wanting companionship.
We all do.
It’s human nature.
That said, the work you do now to resolve your personality drawbacks is rewarding in the long run.
It saves you from the emotional pain of joining a dating site, getting along with a great match, only to lose him once he learns about your behavioral issues.
All of this being said, provided you are someone who doesn’t have these behavioral issues, joining a dating site is a great idea.
According to the Pew Research Center, three in ten adults have joined a dating site.
This means that you are in good company.
One last thing.
Did you recently go through a breakup?
An unconscionable amount of people join a dating site right after a breakup so that they can replace an ex-boyfriend and not have to deal with the emotional repercussions of said breakup.
Don’t be this person.
Making sure that you are emotionally ready to welcome someone new into your love life is vital.
Without emotional availability, the time you spend on a dating site proves to be torturous.
There is a futile attempt to keep convincing yourself that you have moved on from your ex-boyfriend, when you actually haven’t, and in the process, you are wasting both your time and that of those you match with.