Although you are hurting right now, it doesn’t do you any good to go on matchmaking sites while you are going through this emotional suffering.

In your mind, going on a dating site to match with men is how you connect with someone new and move past the emotional suffering you are experiencing from this breakup.

It all sounds like a solution, but sadly, it isn’t in the long run.

Signing up on a dating site while you are hurting from a recent breakup doesn’t give you the ultimate healing you require.

The attention you receive from men upon signing up on a dating site gives you a reprieve.

But this reprieve is misleading.

Receiving all these message and likes from men on a dating site feels good, and gives you the impression that you have moved on from your ex-boyfriend.

You actually haven’t.

In the end, the good feelings derived from all the attention you are receiving from these men is temporary.

The emotional suffering that resulted from the breakup with your ex-boyfriend is merely being suppressed, replaced with all the attention you are receiving from men on a mobile dating site.

In due time, the good feelings wear out and the emotional suffering resurfaces.

All of a sudden, you are filled with a desperation to know what your ex-boyfriend is doing.

This is where you are looking through his social media to see what he has been up to since the breakup.

Basically, you have made no progress in healing from the breakup, seeing that you spent the last several weeks or months on a dating site, using the attention of men to cover up your emotional suffering.

Without doing the hard work to heal from a difficult breakup, all you do is make the emotional suffering that much stronger when it resurfaces.

It is this potency that forces you to desperately seek out your ex-boyfriend to see what he has been up to since the breakup.

Next thing you know, you make yourself feel worse when you discover that he has apparently moved on from you, judging from the fun photos he posts on his social media and what you are hearing from mutual friends.

This is why you should focus on doing the work to heal yourself before signing up on an internet dating platform to find someone new or get attention from men.

Healing yourself starts with forgiving your ex-boyfriend of anything that you hold against him.

This causes you to unburden your mind from any resentment you have for your ex-boyfriend.

Once you forgive your ex-boyfriend, and eliminate any thoughts of reuniting with him, you are ready to inject a new vigor into your life.

To do this, partake in new and exciting activities that you never did while you were dating your ex-boyfriend.

This exposes you to new activities that enrich your life.

In the process of living this reenergized lifestyle, you are making new friends.

These are people who are participating in the same activities, getting as much of a thrill from doing them as you are.

As you become fully invested in this new lifestyle, you eventually wake up one day and realize that you haven’t thought about your ex-boyfriend in weeks.

This is when you know that you are emotionally available, at which point, it is appropriate to go on a dating site.