Texting or talking to you over the phone before meeting in person lets him get a better idea of whether there is romantic chemistry.

Although you got along messaging on the dating platform after matching, this does not necessarily convert into real-life chemistry.

By texting or talking to you before meeting with you in person, he confirms whether there is real-life chemistry.

Although the conversation over the phone isn’t in person, it is the next best thing.

Meeting you in person takes work.

He has to plan the date, groom himself, wear good cologne with a nice outfit, transport himself to the date, and pay for it.

There is quite a bit of work involved in meeting you in person.

For some guys, they would much rather get a better idea of whether there is romantic chemistry between you before putting out all that work to meet you in person.

Although texting or talking over the phone isn’t the same thing as seeing you in person, it still gives him a good idea about romantic chemistry.

Once he gets a good idea about romantic chemistry through texting or talking, he knows whether it is worth his time, money, and endeavor to plan an in-person meeting with you.

Also, many guys have been burned in the past.

He was too presumptuous in thinking that the romantic chemistry he shared with a match on an online dating site was enough evidence that he would have romantic chemistry with her in person.

Regrettably, he went on one too many dates with this presumption, only to be disappointed by realizing that he didn’t share any romantic chemistry with her in person.

Finally, he learned his lesson.

He decided that he would text or talk to a match over the phone before meeting her in person.

Furthermore, some guys that prefer texting or talking before meeting in person are worried that you are too good to be true.

These are men who have been catfished by women on online dating sites in the past.

He showed up on a date in person, only to discover that his match wasn’t at all physically fit, but overweight, or older than she portrayed herself to be in her photos.

He was at the receiving end of this outcome far too many times until he decided to no longer take any chances.

Instead of giving a match on a matchmaking site the benefit of the doubt in assuming that you look exactly as you appear in your photos, he protects himself.

He asks to text or talk over the phone.

If you agree to it, he texts or calls you, and soon after, he asks whether you would be okay with doing a video chat or sending him a selfie.

Don’t take it personally.

Although you know that you aren’t a catfish, he doesn’t know that.

As of now, you are a stranger to him, irrespective of how well you have gotten along communicating with each other on a dating site.

Even though you would much rather get on with it and meet in person, he wants reassurance beforehand.