Guys struggle to receive matches and messages from women on dating sites.

Unlike women who receive a seemingly endless amount of matches and messages from men on dating sites, guys aren’t anywhere close to that.

When a guy like this sends you a message, he has yet to hear from any girl he has messaged that day, week, or month.

In not receiving a reply to his message, he got upset.

He sent you a subsequent message that was mean and rude.

Downright abusive.

This isn’t solely to do with the fact that you didn’t reply to his message.

It’s bigger than that.

He is thinking about the lack of matches he has received, as well as so many other girls he has messaged in the past who are yet to reply to him on dating platforms.

He thinks about how polite he was in the beginning whenever he initiated a message to a woman, only to be ignored.

Early on, he took the time to send substantive messages to women.

These were messages that were relevant to information he saw in their profiles.

It didn’t matter.

Responses were few and far between.

His exasperation grew, becoming increasingly palpable as the weeks and months went by and nothing changed.

By the time he sent you a message, he was already fed up.

When you didn’t reply to the message he sent you, he no longer cared about civility or politeness.

He was done.

The message was abusive in words and tone.

He unleashed all of his pent-up frustration on you.

As shocking as it was to be at the receiving end of such an abusive message from him, keep from taking it too personally.

It wasn’t solely the absence of a reply on your end that led to his abusive behavior.

The abusive message you received from him was a result of weeks or months of resentment with his terrible experience on online dating websites.

Keep in mind that people online have a tendency to not adhere to societal norms in regards to how to they talk to people.

Given the impersonal and anonymous disposition of cyberspace, people aren’t as hesitant to be impolite.

They hide behind a profile, making it easier for them to be rude to other people without the fear of any consequences.

The men that become abusive towards you when you don’t reply to their messages are taking advantage of the fact that they are online and anonymous.

He is emboldened by the fact that he doesn’t have to deal with society castigating him for being rude or abusive towards you.

If he talked to you that way in a public setting, he knows that the people about won’t stand for it, whether it be in a store, coffee shop, restaurant, etc.

But on a dating site, it’s a different story.

There is no fear of consequence or reprisal.

He lashes out at you.

To an extent he feels good that he did.

It makes him feel better that he gets to do that and get away with it.