If you are new to online dating, there are a number of ways to tell whether a girl is playing hard to get.
She may have a good first conversation with you that lasts for a sustained period of time.
However, the next conversation that you have with her on the online dating site may not last that long.
In fact, she may not even seem as though she is engaged in the conversation at all.
She may not be asking you any questions or may be giving you really short responses.
Being that you are new to online dating, you should really be observant of this kind of behavior.
This second conversation would be a direct contrast to the last conversation that you had with her on the online dating site.
However, the next conversation that you have with her after this may be like the very first conversation you had with her.
In other words, it may last for a sustained period of time and she may be really engaged.
However, the next conversation after this on the online dating site may not be as engaging yet again.
She may be slower to send responses and may not be asking you questions.
When you notice a pattern of this kind of behavior over a sustained period of time, there is a good chance that she is playing hard to get.
When she has the conversations with you that are lively and engaging, she is trying to send the message that she likes you and enjoys your company.
Being that you are new to online dating, you may get prematurely excited about this.
However, when she has the conversations with you that are less engaging and cold, she is sending the message that you shouldn’t get too comfortable with her.
In other words, she doesn’t want you to believe that it is going to be that easy to get her to fall for you.
This is how she keeps you in her sphere of control.
By having a back and forth between lively and cold conversations, she is able to keep you interested but also unsure about her.
As long as you are relatively unsure about her and her intentions, she is able to keep you guessing and thereby chasing her.
Another sign that a girl that you newly met on an online dating site is playing hard to get is when she may flirt with you and give you quite a few compliments in one conversation with her, but then, criticize you in the next.
By flirting with you and giving you high praise, she is trying to make you feel really good about yourself and how your interaction with her is going.
Being new to online dating, it would be easy for you to feel really optimistic about your chances with her given this type of behavior.
However, by criticizing you in another conversation in short order, she is trying to make you wonder whether she likes you at all.
This way, your thoughts and perceptions are constantly bouncing back and forth unbalanced.
By putting you in this position, she is able to play hard to get by making you want to have more conversations with her.
She lures you into her game of playing hard to get because you will want to have more conversations with her in the hopes that she will be kind to you this time and give you compliments.
Whenever she is kind and gives you compliments, you are happy and you can’t wait for the next time that you have a conversation with her.
However, when she is critical of you in the next conversation that you have with her on the online dating site, you are sad.
You want so badly for her to be nice like she has been in the past.
Hence, you reach out to her again in the hopes that this time around she will be nice.
She happens to be nice this time around.
However, she switches back to being critical of you the next time.
This is a back and forth that keeps happening that gets you really sucked into her game of playing hard to get.
This way, she gets you addicted to the desire to hear her say something nice to you.
You keep reaching out to her in the hopes that this time around, she will.
This keeps you addicted to her and allows her to continue playing hard to get.