You should understand that most older men that you meet on an online dating site will still typically have a traditional idea of who should pay the bill at the end of the date.
Older men typically believe that they should be the ones to pay the bill at the end of the date.
At least, the first date or the first few.
However, do understand that regardless of what traditional beliefs an older man that you meet on an online dating site has, you still have every right to uphold what you believe.
If you have always offered to split the bill whenever you have gone out on dates with men in the past, you should continue to do so, if that is what makes you comfortable.
You should never feel inadequate for offering to split the bill.
If you offer to split the bill at the end of the date with this older man that you met on an online dating site, he may turn you down.
However, if you are a stickler for paying something out on a date and you would feel really bad if you didn’t, you can tell the older man that you will pay the tip.
This is something that the older man would actually be more able to entertain.
It still allows him to feel as though he has been a gentleman in paying for the bill, being that all you are doing is paying a little extra in covering the tip.
This way, you can feel a sense of comfort that you didn’t allow him to pay for the entire date including the tip and he can feel a sense of chivalry that he didn’t have you pay for the date.
This is where the both of you can feel good about how it all went down.
Now, if you are not the kind of woman that feels the need to pay something out on the date, you shouldn’t just offer to split the bill out of courtesy.
If you truly don’t want to split the bill, you shouldn’t pretend that you do.
This is often the mistake that some women make.
They may not actually want to split the bill but offer to do so anyway in the hopes that the man will tell her that he will take care of it.
The danger of doing this is that you may tell this older man that and he may agree to it and it may not necessarily be because he is being cheap.
There are some older men who may think that if they were to turn down your offer to split the bill, they may offend you in some way.
Perhaps they think that you are more of an independent-minded woman and thereby, they should respect your wishes if you want to split the bill with them.
Now you have put yourself in a position that you actually didn’t want to be in.
The older man that you met on an online dating site may have agreed to splitting the bill out of respect for what you requested as opposed to out of simply not wanting to pay for the whole date.
However, innately, you will be upset that he accepted your offer because you never truly meant it in the first place.
You were hoping that he would turn down your offer and pay for the whole date.
This will put you in a bad mood and a date that may have been going really well up until that point may be ruined in your mind.
Hence, if you aren’t the type that truly wants to split the bill at the end of a date, don’t offer to do it.
Being an older man, he will most likely pay the bill.
If he would rather split it, he will let you know. Otherwise, simply allow him to lead when it comes to who pays for the bill at the end of the date.