By going straight on to internet matchmaking sites right after the breakup, he was indicating a potent reluctance to reflect, handle, and resolve his emotions.

When the two of you broke up, he was consumed with such powerful emotions, he was ill-equipped to deal with them.

These powerful emotions were too much to take.

He was overwhelmed.

When men are growing up, they aren’t taught nor encouraged to deal with and resolve their emotions.

Instead, they are told to be strong and to be a man so as to steer clear of emotional incidents.

They are made to believe that expressing emotion is weak and unmanly.

Plenty of men grow up with this tutelage.

By the time he is old enough to date, his idea of what a man is consists of showing little emotion.

He believes that emotion is weakness.

When the two of you broke up, your ex-boyfriend was filled with emotions that were overwhelming.

Being that he was taught to suppress his emotions, he didn’t know what to make of what he was feeling.

It was deep, invasive, and unfamiliar.

It was so overwhelming, he was having trouble eating, sleeping, and doing his daily tasks.

It’s as though all of the lessons he was taught as a child about being a man and suppressing his emotions were completely irrelevant.

He was hurting, and he was hurting bad.

Desperate to free himself from the profound emotions that had taken over his being, he put in extra hours at the gym, worked an extra shift at work, hung out with his buddies for longer stretches of time, etc.

Nothing he tried worked.

The emotions were penetrating and unrelenting.

Finally, he realized that there was nothing that was capable of taking this emotional turmoil away unless he found a way to replace you.

A new girlfriend provides a buffer.

A buffer from these unwelcomed emotions.

He remembered how consumed he was with you during your relationship with him.

He remembered how much his life became all about talking to you and hanging out with you.

It was all-encompassing.

During that period, he wasn’t as concerned about going to the gym, working hard at work to get that promotion, playing video games with his friends, or going to the bar with them.

No, all he cared about was being with you.

You consumed him.

With this recollection, he realized that the only way to be free of the emotions that were overwhelming him was to find your replacement.

Given how consumed he was with you during the relationship, he believed that finding another girl to replace you would have a similar effect.

Even if it wasn’t exactly similar, anything was better than what he had been going through.

At half or less than half the effect, some of these emotions would still be alleviated to an extent.

That was better than what he was going through.

With this intention, your ex-boyfriend got on dating sites.

The speed in which he got straight on to dating sites may have seemed really fast to you, but to him, each day he was suffering through these fiery emotions felt like an eternity.

Upon deciding to alleviate these emotions by getting on dating sites, he was all in.

He went crazy.

He swiped for hours.

This, in and of itself, provided a light distraction from all the emotions the breakup had wrought.

Once he matched with a few girls, he quickly opened a channel of communication with them.

Receiving their attention through text messaging worked wonders.

The emotions were calming, his body was feeling more at ease.

Getting on dating sites was his final solution to exorcising those heavy emotions out of him, and it worked.

Nevertheless, unbeknownst to him, this is only a smokescreen.

Those emotions, though lessened, remain dormant.

Eventually, they are bound to return to the surface of his psyche.

No amount of matches with girls on dating sites is changing that.

When emotions are suppressed, they return in due course.

When this happens, he is sure to contact you in a desperate attempt to rekindle his relationship with you.