There are plenty of guys who have a hard time meeting girls in the real world.
They are constantly worried about rejection.
To this end, he struggles to approach women that he finds attractive, doing everything in his power to unwittingly talk himself out of it.
He tells himself that the pretty girl he regularly sees at the local coffee shop at the corner alone with her favorite latte is too pretty not to already have a boyfriend.
Moreover, he tells himself that she will reject him should he approach her, as he can’t possibly be her type.
Men talk themselves out of making a move on a woman they are attracted to on a daily basis.
This doesn’t only go for girls that are total strangers to him, but girls in his social orbit too.
In other words, the girls he finds attractive in school, at work, in the gym, at church, as a neighbor, etc.
Regardless of whether she is familiar to him or a total stranger, he is hesitant to make that next move to talk to her and possibly ask her out.
As technology progressed and the internet was born, these men found a solution.
It is so much easier for him to approach a girl on a dating site than it is in the real world.
On a dating site, he is shielded from rejection to an extent.
He is unaware of the girls who swipe left or pass on his profile.
All he is aware of are the girls who swipe right or like his profile and match with him.
Even when those interactions don’t lead to a date or a long-term relationship, he isn’t all that bothered.
She is just some girl he matched with on an online dating site, and it isn’t all that big of a deal.
Rejection on an online dating site is far different from rejection in real life.
He doesn’t take it anywhere near as personally.
Since the advent of dating sites, they have increasingly become the avenue by which men look to find women to date.
The gender gap is heavily skewed between genders.
Some dating sites, such as Tinder, are so skewed, the gender breakdown is 74% men to 25% women.
Other dating sites don’t fair that much better either.
This is why you see so many more guys on online dating sites than girls.
It is just easier for him to anonymously reach out to a girl on a dating site than to approach or make a move on a girl in the real world.
Additionally, he comes across far more women on dating sites than he does in real life.
This gives him the impression that there are endless women to choose from as potential dates.
Instead of being stuck on his secret office crush, waiting for the day she gives him enough choosing signs for him to finally ask her out, there are a litany of women on online dating sites who could be his next crush.
So he gets on the online dating sites, and like so many other guys, he swipes right on every profile he is presented with.
This is how guys on dating sites play the numbers game.
Given that men receive far fewer matches on dating sites than women, he swipes right on as many profiles as he can.
His intention is to use the law of averages to mathematically notch up a few matches.
The harsh reality on online dating platforms is that men swipe right on 40% to 60% of female profiles they like, while women are much more selective, swiping right on only around 4% to 15% of male profiles they like.
Despite this discrepancy, the resulting swipe-happy mentality creates laziness in men.
The idea that he can sit on his couch and keep swiping right until he finds matches on a Friday night, instead of having to go out into the town and find girls to socialize with, is far too enticing.
His friend or roommate, who is also having no luck finding dates out in the wild on Friday nights, gets wind of this and joins in, signing up on the same dating sites.
His roommate goes from being a social butterfly to being a hermit alongside his friend, spending his Friday nights on the couch swiping away on his phone.
As they both chow down on delivered pizza, faces hypnotized by their phones, they anticipate the numbers game working out in their favor by sending them matches in the near future.
It’s dating on easy mode.