Instead of focusing on how he feels, try leading by example first.
In other words, if you know that he’s still actively using an online dating profile and you have both talked about exclusively dating each other, you can actually put him in a position where he gets to watch you delete your own online dating profile.
This works best if the both of you have already talked about and agreed to becoming exclusive with one another.
You can invite him over to your place for dinner or to hang out.
In the process of enjoying each other’s company, you can pop open your smartphone or laptop and let him know that you are about to delete your online dating profile.
You would be doing this while he is right there in your presence.
As you proceed to delete your own online dating profile, you would be instantly sending the message to him that he should delete his own.
If he truly was serious about dating you exclusively, he would feel compelled to also delete his online dating profile as you are deleting your own.
This would send the message that he may have been waiting for you to do this for some time and he is now content in no longer having to remain active in using his online dating profile.
If he doesn’t do this or tries to find ways to convince you not to delete your online dating profile, he was most likely not being sincere about wanting to date you exclusively.
If you have finished deleting your online dating profile in his presence and he still hasn’t taken the hint and made an effort to delete his own online dating profile, you could ask him again about whether the both of you are exclusive.
If he says that the both of you are, you now have permission to tell him that you would feel more comfortable if he were to delete his online dating profile just as you just deleted your own.
This is yet another opportunity for him to delete his online dating profile.
If he chooses not to, then this is an indication that he wants to still continue maintaining an active online dating profile.
Hence, he is not being honest about wanting to date you exclusively.
Now, if the both of you have never had a conversation about being exclusive and he has been actively using his online dating profile, there is a good chance that he is keeping his dating options open.
He may not have gotten to the point with you where he feels that you should be the only one that he is talking to.
Hence, it may be a good idea to be a little bit more patient with him.
If you have only been interacting with him for a couple of weeks, he may also be simultaneously dating other people in order to ascertain who he would like to be it.
He has every right to do this as he is not in an exclusive relationship with you.
Instead of asking him to delete his online dating profile at this time, focus on showing him how much of a catch you are.
Ensure that you have fantastic dates with him and you have engaging conversations with him over the phone.
Truly show him what your personality is all about.
Do not hold back.
You are in competition with other women from the online dating site that he may be talking to and meeting for dates.
The first two months of interaction is your window to set yourself apart from everyone else.
Put out this kind of effort.
Make him feel excited about every date that the both of you go on by keeping things fresh.
Reveal new exciting information about yourself every time you interact with him.
The more you do this, the more of a catch you become.
If he has stuck around for two months and the both of you have had consistent fun dates and conversations, you can bring up the talk about exclusivity.
By this time, he should have a very good idea about whether he would like to be exclusive with you or not.
If he tells you that he would, you could tell him that the both of you should delete your online dating profiles simultaneously.
He would most likely agree to that.
It really makes things real and the both of you would be doing it mutually.
On the other hand, if you ask him about exclusivity and he is still doubtful or doesn’t give you a straight answer, he is sending the message that he would still rather continue actively using his online dating profile.
In a scenario like this, you are better off stopping your interaction with him and moving on.