You can ask her about what she is looking for in your very first conversation with her.

And yes, this is something that you should most definitely ask.

Although a dating profile will often state what a person is looking for, it isn’t always accurate.

That person’s mind may have changed since they created that dating profile.

They may not still be at the same place.

Also, oftentimes, people don’t accurately enter what they are looking for when they first create their dating profile.

They may want to get a better idea of what kind of dating site they are patronizing before deciding about what they should say they are looking for.

At that early stage, they may not even be entirely sure about whether they are going to stick with this online dating thing to begin with.

Hence, it is always best to ask the person directly about what they are looking for.

Don’t be shy about this.

If you are someone who is looking for something specific on the dating site, it doesn’t bode well for you to avoid the topic.

You are on the dating site for a specific reason.

If you are not there to simply engage in casual conversations with people and nothing more, you need to find out what the other person is all about as far as what they are looking for before you expend too much time and effort on them.

This will be your chance to get the answer from the horse’s mouth.

You don’t have to rely on what their dating profile stated.

You can get the direct answer from them as you engage in conversation with them.

Now, it is best to first start with lighthearted introductions and banter before asking her about what she is looking for.

In other words, the first words out of your typing hands shouldn’t be about what she is looking for.

Establish a little bit of rapport with her first and as the conversation flows naturally, you will reach a point where it makes sense to ask her about what she is looking for.

She may even get there before you do.

The point here is that you should just have natural conversation with her and the opportunity to ask her about what she is looking for will just naturally present itself.

When you ask her about what she is looking for, you should make sure that you don’t interrupt her.

Sometimes, we can get really excited when we hear someone saying the things that we want to hear.

We just can’t help ourselves but interrupt because it is like music to our ears.

However, in order to get the most sincere and revealing response from her, you shouldn’t excitedly interrupt her as she tells you about what she is looking for.

This helps to avoid the possibility of her simply saying what she thinks you will like to hear and it also gives you an opportunity to truly determine whether the both of you are looking for the same thing.

You should also understand that regardless of what she tells you, the proof is in the pudding.

In other words, she needs to show you through her actions that she is indeed looking for this outcome.

Telling you that she is looking for a good communicator when she is often sporadic in how she communicates with you would indicate that she is most likely not being honest about that.

Thereby, use your head and true observation to judge whether there is truth in what she has told you.

Using your heart and emotion instead of your head and true observation could lead to a lot of wasted time and effort spent on someone who wasn’t being true and honest with you from the start.