Online Dating: Ghosted? What Happened?

Online Dating: Ghosted? What Happened?

Getting ghosted is never a good feeling, but in your quest to figure out what happened, you should understand that not everyone you meet on an online dating site is going to have the purest intentions.

You may start interacting with someone that you met on the online dating site for a period of time and everything may have seemed fine.

They may have been very good in conversation and may have even had a lot in common with you.

However, you shouldn’t always take this as evidence that this person isn’t going to ghost you at some point.

Oftentimes, people who tend to ghost typically get into conversations with other people on an online dating site with the initial motivation of merely chatting.

They may have never really intended to take their interaction with you on the online dating site much further than that.

People like this will chat with other people on the online dating website over a sustained period of time.

During this time, this person may come off as though they are really interested in you. They ask you the right kind of questions and they seem to be able to relate to so much of what you tell them.

At some point, this person may have even suggested meeting up in the real world on a date or hang out.

However, not long after saying this, the person ghosts you.

They completely and utterly disappear from your cyberspace online dating world.

This ghosting typically happens because the person has taken the conversation with you on the online dating site as far as it can go.

They know that they are now at a point where you are going to be expecting more than just chatting or conversation on the dating site.

They know that you may be requesting to exchange more personal contact information or even meet up soon.

They don’t want to find themselves in a position where they have to turn you down or they have to give you excuses as to why they either don’t want to exchange more personal contact information with you or they are unable to meet you in person.

Hence, they make the preemptive move of ghosting you before they find themselves in this awkward position.

A person like this never started their interaction with you with the goal of possibly meeting you one day if communication continued to go well on the dating site.

They started their interaction with you with the goal of merely chatting until they got to the point where they knew that you would want to take things to the next level.

If you want to avoid people like this on dating sites, you should ensure that you ask any person that you are interacting with about what their intentions are for joining the online dating site early on in your interaction with that person.

If they were to tell you that they are actually looking to meet someone, you shouldn’t only take them at their word.

In order to avoid being ghosted again, you should observe this person’s actions.

If they are constantly hesitant to exchange personal contact information with you after having already communicated with you for a while on the online dating site, there is a good chance that you may not be dealing with an honest person.

Also, if this person tends to avoid talking about their own past relationships after you have already built up a decent amount of rapport with this person on the online dating site, there is a good chance that they are hiding something.

They may already be in a relationship and are trying to misrepresent the fact that they are.

They may have even recently gone through a bad break up that they have never recovered from.

These are all ingredients that point to a person that will most likely ghost you at some point on the dating site.

The more you equip yourself in knowing what to watch for, the less likely you will get ghosted on again.