This is a common issue that you have encountered on dating apps.

There is an ongoing conversation with a guy, and you are asking questions, but he isn’t.

He keeps replying to your questions without asking you any questions of his own.

This is tiring and disheartening.

The thought of continuing to go through one-sided conversations has you wanting to give up on online dating.

Whenever this crosses your mind, you are reminded of all the online dating success stories you have heard about.

The thought reinvigorates you, as you want to be one of those success stories.

Which brings you back to your original angst and its underlying objective.

How to figure out a way to get a conversation going two ways?

The major step in achieving this underlying objective is to never permit an ongoing conversation to fall into the routine of being one-sided.

Given that you are used to being the one who keeps asking questions in a desperate attempt to keep a conversation going, you are susceptible to falling into this trap.

Don’t.

Get into the routine of setting the right expectations from the onset of a conversation.

From the moment you open up a conversation with him and ask him a question, bear this in mind.

When he responds to your opening question without a question of his own directed back at you, this is where your ensuing response is pivotal.

You must determine whether this is a guy who is interested in you or a guy who isn’t.

A guy who is interested in you but is naturally shy or socially awkward is too nervous to ask you a question on his own volition.

He isn’t used to talking to girls in his day to day life, and worries about asking the wrong questions.

To eschew turning a girl off, he plays it safe in not asking her questions.

Inversely, a guy who isn’t interested in you is a complete waste of your time.

It has nothing to do with shyness or social awkwardness.

He likes the attention, but has no real interest in the woman.

Here is how you determine which guy you are dealing with.

When you open the conversation by asking a question, and he answers your question, but doesn’t ask you a question in return, don’t make the mistake of asking him yet another question about himself.

Instead, ask him about what he would like to know about you.

That’s it.

Normally, a guy who isn’t interested in you will not bother responding to that question or will give you a lazy response like, “What would you like to tell me.”

A lack of a response or a lazy response lets you know that you can filter the guy out.

He is a waste of your time.

The guy who is interested responds with a question, regardless of whether he is shy or socially awkward.

By putting him on the spot, he knows he has no choice but to be more proactive with the conversation so as to keep you interested in him.

Keep doing this in your ongoing conversation with him, until he starts asking you questions without any prompting.