Online Dating: What Do I Do If A Guy Won’t Ask Questions?

Online Dating: What Do I Do If A Guy Won't Ask Questions?

It is not acceptable that you are the one who keeps asking questions.

After all, this defeats the whole purpose of being on an online dating site in the first place.

You are both there to get to know each other better so as to determine whether there is a romantic connection.

When a guy won’t ask questions, it could be for a multitude of reasons.

He may be socially awkward, self-centered, bored, depressed, a player, etc.

Despite the reason, you need to make sure that you don’t keep putting in all this work to keep conversations going with him on the online dating site without that effort being reciprocated.

You need to understand your value.

When you make everything about him, you will lose.

He won’t feel the need to put out any real effort in the process of getting to know each other better.

This means that there will be no real emotional investment.

Without any emotional investment, he is not going to take you seriously.

The moment that he gets bored with the conversation, he will turn his attention to someone else and abandon you.

Always make sure that you know what the guy is looking for before you begin the process of interacting with him on an online dating site.

This is something that you should find out early on.

Yes, this information will most likely be on his dating profile.

However, that isn’t enough.

You should actually ask him about what he is looking for in conversation.

If he tells you that he is looking for the same kind of relationship that you are looking for, he is going to have to back that up through his actions.

If you are looking for a serious relationship, a big part of ultimately getting to that point with someone is in getting to know them.

Learning about their likes, dislikes, life experiences, opinions, belief structures, etc.

This is how you are able to determine whether there are commonalities, shared experiences, shared belief structures, etc.

Without this, you won’t really be able to determine whether the guy is a good prospect for a serious long-term relationship.

If you have met a guy who has told you that he is looking for a serious relationship but doesn’t ask you questions, he may not at all be honest about his motives.

However, to be sure, you should simply stop trying to initiate conversations with him.

In other words, you need to let him initiate conversations with you.

If he does initiate a conversation with you, you shouldn’t respond to it unless he is asking you a question.

Try not to fall for the trap of responding to a generic greeting like “Hey” or anything that isn’t designed to get to know you better.

This will only put you right back in the rabbit hole of trying to force a conversation and keep it going.

That onus has to be on him from this point on until he has proven that he is truly willing to get to know you.

The only message that you should respond to from this guy from this point on should be something that is asking a question of you.

If he is truly interested in you, he will soon come to realize that you aren’t responding to his generic messages and this will force him to start conversations where he is asking a question.

If he doesn’t do this, he is clearly showing a lack of interest and you should take that as your queue to move on.