When you match with a guy on a dating app, go on a few amazing dates, realize that he is the guy of your dreams, and he tells you that it is not the right time for him, it never feels good.
He made himself believe that he was ready for a relationship, but he was lying to himself.
Once he went out on several dates with you and discerned that you were an amazing girl, he concluded that he couldn’t go on pretending.
You were much too nice and the last thing he wanted to do was lead you on by continuing to go out on dates with you.
Guilt basically set in.
He knew that continuing to go out on dates with you made it likely that you fall in love with him.
This eventuality is too much for him.
Right now, he knows he doesn’t have the emotional availability to reciprocate such profound emotions.
Sadly, he recognized that his time with you had come to an end.
He had to accept that it is not the right time for him.
Complications from a previous relationship is usually the culprit.
There was a bad breakup that he has been grappling with for a period of time.
He is still in love with this woman or persists in caring about her.
He thought that signing up on a dating app would help him move on from the emotional repercussions of the relationship he had with her.
For a while, it was working like a charm.
Matching with you on the dating app was the start.
The ensuing conversations were lovely, and so free flowing.
The consequent dates were marvelous, as the in-person chemistry was even better than what he shared with you on a dating app.
Eventually, it hit him.
He comprehended that the dates were going so well that it was inevitable you would develop feelings for him.
That was when he determined he had to stop them and tell you that it was not the right time.
He wasn’t pleased with having to do this.
In the back of his mind, he knew that if his circumstances were different, he would have loved to keep going out on dates with you to see where this romantic adventure led.
However, he didn’t want to put himself in yet another emotional quagmire, where you are the one who has developed deeper feelings for him and he is under pressure to match your emotions.
This exacerbates his already complicated situation.
He reluctantly decided to tell you that it is not the right time.
He didn’t expect to hit it off with you this well.
The truth is, if you two hadn’t hit it off this magnificently, he was open to the idea of having a short-lived casual relationship with you.
A casual relationship isn’t as emotionally weighty as a serious one, and at this time in his life, he doesn’t have the emotional availability to get into a serious relationship with anyone.