Knowing how long he has been using the dating app provides a better perspective on where he is coming from in telling you that he isn’t ready to commit.
A guy who has been excessively using the dating app for a long time, a year or longer, without any breaks, isn’t intent on committing to any one woman.
Having been on the dating app for that long, he has had ample opportunity to meet a good match and commit.
In not doing so, he is merely using the dating app to find women to hook up with or have friends with benefits relationships with.
The good news is that, this has nothing to do with him not being ready to commit to you in particular.
The bad news is that, well, he isn’t intent on committing.
The opposite is true of a guy that has been on the dating app for a short while, no more than a month.
He has consciously made the decision not to commit to you in particular.
This is because he believes that there is a better match on the horizon.
He has only been on the dating app for a short while.
At such an early stage, the dating app seems like a land of milk and honey, enticing him to hold out for someone better.
He has probably received a number of matches, but he hasn’t received enough to make him believe that this is all there is.
He is hopeful that he is bound to receive a match of his dreams.
Now, this doesn’t mean that there isn’t a possibility that he could ultimately decide that he wants to commit to you.
Should a better match never happen, he could make his way right back to you and tell you that he is ready to commit.
Unfortunately, this does mean that he is settling for you to an extent.
Take that as you may.
Okay, so far, this sounds pretty bad.
The guy who has been on the dating app for a long time is stuck in his ways and won’t commit to you or anyone else.
The guy who has been on the dating app for a short time is hopeful there is a better match on the horizon but may backtrack to you if that better match never happens.
But there is another option.
A guy who is protecting himself emotionally, fearful that you are someone who could hurt him if he were to open himself up to you and ultimately commit.
Sometimes, this is caused by a previous relationship that left him shattered emotionally.
This has created an invisible buffer, keeping you at arm’s length from him emotionally.
The remedy is to get him to reach a point where he has come to trust you, convinced that you aren’t set on hurting him like a past girlfriend did.
The quickest path to building trust with him is to never judge him whenever he is compelled to reveal sensitive information to you.
This encourages him to open up more and more to you over time.
Once he believes he can talk to you about anything, including what makes him vulnerable, you have established trust with him.
From here on out, the prospect of him being ready to commit to you is realistic.