Most people are not against online dating.
Online dating has become one of the most popular ways to meet a significant other.
There is a good chance that you know someone who has tried online dating or is doing online dating right now.
The few people who may be against online dating are typically the ones who have either tried it and failed or the ones who have never tried it but have a bias against it.
The people who have tried online dating and failed are normally the people who came into online dating with the wrong approach and never changed their strategy.
They may have started online dating and did very little to make their online dating profiles appealing.
In other words, they may have written a very lazy online dating profile essay and posted photos that lacked quality and depth.
With this kind of behavior, very few people would respond to a person like this.
Hence, they wouldn’t get any messages on the online dating site or very few.
This would ultimately frustrate the person and they may quit online dating with the belief that online dating is a farce.
Some of these people who are against online dating that have tried it may have sent messages to people on the online dating site but didn’t get responses to those messages.
This frustrates them after a while and they quit online dating believing that it doesn’t work.
However, the problem was that these people sent really bad messages.
They would send messages that were very bland and generic in nature.
Messages like “Hey,” or “Great profile,” are rarely ever going to get a response.
People on online dating sites want messages that indicate that you actually read their online dating profile.
They want messages that show that you are actually putting out an effort to get to know them.
Generic and bland messages aren’t going to motivate most people on an online dating site to respond to them.
Hence, you have these people who would send these type of messages constantly getting ignored and rightfully so.
These people may even get so frustrated with the lack of response to their messages that they start copying and pasting the exact same generic message to multiple people in the hopes that they can use sheer numbers to get a response.
However, this method still doesn’t work.
These people give up and quit online dating as a result.
They are now against online dating because they didn’t get responses.
However, it was the fault of these people for sending these kind of generic effortless messages that led to their failure in online dating.
This wasn’t the fault of online dating.
Other people who may be against online dating are the ones who have never tried it but are biased.
These are often the people who don’t like change.
They want things to remain the way that they have always been.
Hence, they would much rather people stuck to the traditional ways of meeting people which would be face to face in the real world.
They have also been influenced by negative stories from certain publications that were biased themselves in their approach to online dating.
These publications may have written about one negative experience that a person had in online dating and used that one experience to completely sully the reputation of online dating.
Since these stories only buttress this person’s biased views about online dating that much more, this person feels validated in continuously being against online dating.
However, this person has never tried online dating themselves.
Hence, there is no way that they could possibly know what that experience would be like.
People often fear what they don’t understand.
It’s human nature.
For people like this, they would much rather remain in a mindset that is against online dating because it is within their comfort zone to do that.
Stepping out of their comfort zone would be too scary.
If some of these people actually stepped out of their comfort zone, they may be surprised to find that online dating is a lot less scary than they have allowed themselves to believe.
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