It really depends on how you feel about this man who is in his late 40’s.
If the both of you met on a dating site, you were both clearly looking for something.
You may have spent a good amount of time getting to know this man on the dating site and discovered in the process that you both have a strong connection.
You may not have felt this kind of connection with anyone else that you have talked to on the dating site.
This would indicate that he may be your best match.
Being that you are 29, you are clearly an adult and you have been one for a while.
Hence, you do have some life experience.
This means that you have probably had experiences with men around your age in your day to day life.
You may have also dated some of them.
This means that you have some relationships from your real life that you can use to do a comparison as you try to figure out how much of an age gap is too much.
If you got on a dating site, there may be a significant reason why you did it.
Perhaps the men that you have dated in your real life who were around your age have never come through for you in the right way.
Perhaps you find it hard to connect with them.
You may even feel as though you have little in common with them even though they may be around your age.
They may have not been the most faithful guys in the world or they may have had a habit of saying things that they never backed up.
This may have been your experience when it came to dating these guys who are around your age in the real world.
Perhaps it was all of these disappointments in your interactions and relationships with guys in the real world that led you to join a dating site in the first place.
In joining a dating site, you have now met this man who is in his late 40’s.
You have probably had several talks with this man on the dating site and you may be feeling the kind of connection with him that you never felt with the guys that you dated in the real world who are around your age.
It may even seem as though you have a lot more in common with this man who is in his late 40’s than you do with guys who you dated in the real world who were around your own age.
Hence, everything about this older man seems to be just perfect, save for the fact that he is in his late 40’s and you are 29.
Determining if your age gap with him is too much really comes down to whether you feel that this is a man that can truly occupy your future.
Is he a man that you can visualize being with for the rest of your life?
If you intend to get married some day, is he a man that you can easily see as your husband?
It’s essential to ask yourself these questions and base your answers on what you are feeling internally.
Your answers should not be based on the fear of what other people would think about your age gap with this man who is in his late 40’s.
In the end, the only people who would be in this relationship would be the both of you and no one else.
How you feel is what matters most because you would be the one in the relationship.
People who are outside the relationship who may make a judgment on the age gap have no idea about how you feel when you are interacting with this man who is in his late 40’s.
These people are on the outside looking in.
Thereby, they have no emotional investment.
This means that any judgment coming from them would be from a place of detachment.
It is much easier for a person to judge when they are coming from a place of detachment.
This is why you should never allow what other people think to affect your decision on whether you should keep on with this man who is in his late 40’s or not.
Always remember that it is your life, not theirs.
You are responsible for your own happiness and trying to get approval from people who may not even understand what it is that works best for you in a relationship would only lead you down a path of despair and abject frustration.
As long as you are in tune with how this man makes you feel and you are able to visualize what a future with him could be like, you will be able to judge whether the age gap between you is too much.