In wanting to unmatch politely, there is too much concern on your part about not hurting his feelings.

He is a big boy, who chose to sign up on a dating app to find a match.

You aren’t responsible for his feelings.

All you are responsible for is getting what you want out of online dating and not leading anyone on.

There is no reason to feel bad about unmatching a guy.

You gave it a shot.

There was messaging back and forth that left you uninspired.

He was polite enough, but there wasn’t a spark.

This is okay.

Dating apps are designed to get people together with a purpose of finding their best match.

Not every match is the best match.

It’s trial and error.

That is the nature of dating apps and there is nothing wrong with that.

Since you aren’t feeling a romantic connection with this guy, you have every reason to unmatch with him, and you don’t have to feel guilty about it.

It didn’t work out.

It’s better to unmatch with him than lead him on.

Guilt is your worst enemy in these moments.

It tricks women into believing they have to message the guy with an explanation or an apology of sorts.

This is much worse on the guy.

A message of explanation or apology is liable to being misinterpreted by the guy.

You have no idea how this guy handles polite messages of rejection.

Lots of guys have a hard time getting matches on dating apps.

This generates aggravation.

Receiving a polite message of rejection from you could be the straw that breaks the camel’s back and he goes off on a tirade.

He interprets your polite rejection message as a sign of your arrogance and responds to it with insults, using you as his punching bag in light of how frustrated he is with online dating.

The guy who doesn’t respond with insults, interprets your polite message of rejection as a sign that you are playing hard to get and that he should pursue you even harder.

Either way, you are stuck with two exceedingly bad outcomes.

As this abuse keeps happening to you whenever you are about to unmatch a guy, it gets to a critical moment where you begin to dread receiving matches altogether.

With every match you receive, you are dreading his response to a polite message of rejection if there is no romantic spark in the conversations you have with him.

This constant anxiety forces you to spend less time on a dating app.

This isn’t beneficial to you.

You have as much right to be on a dating app and enjoying the benefits of it as anyone else.

To reiterate, an explanation or apology isn’t required when unmatching, and works against you in several occasions.

Not every guy knows how to handle a rejection message, no matter how polite it is.

And you don’t want any guy to ruin your time on a dating app.

Never forget why you signed up on a dating app.

To find your best match.

With that goal in mind, never feel guilty in unmatching.

Do it and move on.

You don’t owe any guy an explanation or apology for unmatching.

Quietly unmatching him works in your favor and his.

Imagine that.

It saves time, letting you and him move on to better prospects.