On paper, you two look like a match.
But upon matching on a dating app and having a conversation, things change.
She observes how you communicate.
Her communication style isn’t always going to work with your own.
There is a difference in wit, lightheartedness, assertiveness, charisma, etc.
Thanks to this deficit, she unmatches you right after matching.
It feels strange for this to happen so quickly.
But for her, after a few text message exchanges, she already knows that you don’t give off the vibe she likes.
She knows that vibe.
She senses it when it is there.
It wasn’t there with you, and she didn’t need to chat with you over an extended period of time to figure that out.
This led to a fast unmatching.
Yes, this feels cruel and unfairly judgmental, but she has done you a favor.
She wasn’t into the vibe you were giving off and nothing you would have said in conversation would have changed that.
Now that she has unmatched you, you don’t have to waste your time and effort on her.
Someone else has the potential to connect with your vibe down the line.
Keep your spirits up.
Besides your vibe, guys get unmatched rather quickly when they are rude or presumptuous.
An absence of common etiquette is something that isn’t going to be tolerated by a lot of women on dating apps.
Rude behavior in showing impatience when she is yet to respond to your first message is a one-way ticket to getting unmatched.
Some guys are way too impatient and end up double or triple texting a girl, asking whether she saw his message, or whether she is ignoring him.
Rude.
You are getting unmatched fast.
Presumptuous behavior is just as bad.
Calling her complimentary names is too presumptuous and are quick turnoffs that lead to getting unmatched.
Mind how you address her.
She is not your “honey” or “baby,” so don’t call her that in your first message to her.
Besides rude and presumptuous behavior, don’t get too personal too soon, especially in a sexual nature.
Asking about how many men she has slept with or hooked up with isn’t appropriate.
Asking about what she likes in the bedroom isn’t either.
Again, conduct yourself properly or be shown the door by getting unmatched.
Women receive too many matches on dating apps to tolerate bad etiquette.
Then there are guys who play it too safe in their messaging.
Opening a conversation with a bland greeting or message is going to bore her and get you unmatched.
Too many guys open a message with a generic greeting like, “Hello,” “Hey,” “Hi,” and many don’t go much further than that.
These types of generic greetings without much else get you unmatched.
The same can be said for generic messages that don’t inspire conversation.
Short generic messages such as, “How are you?,” “We matched,” “Hello, my name is …,” etc.
These generic messages warrant an instant unmatching in her book.
You won’t get far with generic messages that play it safe but do little to open proper conversation.
Make your message one that inspires a response.
As a rule of thumb, pick out something she wrote about in her bio and ask her an open-ended question about it.
In doing this, you are showing strong social skills and enticing her to respond with the intention of keeping a conversation going for a sustained period of time.