No matter how you say it, he gets angry and berates you after you decline his offer for a 2nd date.
His rude response a far cry from how polite he was when he matched with you on a dating app and initiated a conversation with you.
There is honesty in how you go about declining his offer for a 2nd date, as you politely explain that you don’t think you are a good fit for each other, but hope that he finds a better match.
It’s no good.
His response is filled with criticism, anger, hate and meanness.
A guy who had been a gentleman to you on the first date, suddenly collapses into using insults and harsh words that are directed at you, upon learning that you are declining his 2nd date offer a few days later.
This has happened several times with several men you have matched with on dating apps.
Yes, the thought of blocking or ghosting him sounds so much more convenient than running the risk of being berated by him when you decline his 2nd date offer.
Nonetheless, doing that isn’t who you are.
Were the shoe on the other foot, you would want a guy who has enough respect for you to inform you that he is declining a 2nd date.
This being said, it doesn’t mean that you haven’t been tempted to take the route of blocking or ghosting a guy right after an unsuccessful 1st date, before he has had a chance to ask you out on a 2nd date.
Inevitably, your conscience has you refusing to take such a cold-blooded approach.
Now what?
How do you decline a 2nd date with these men and not be berated?
This is doable.
Whenever you are out on a 1st date with a guy and know that you aren’t romantically connecting with him, let him know about how you feel by the end of the 1st date, while you are at the location of the 1st date.
Instead of waiting until he asks you out on a 2nd date a few days after the 1st date, preempt him by politely telling him about the unfortunate absence of a romantic connection by the end of the 1st date, and wishing him the best in his quest to find a better match.
Doing this while you are physically at the location of the 1st date makes it extremely unlikely that he berates you.
A guy isn’t going to berate you at a public venue.
He is much too worried about drawing the ire of passersby or of nearby patrons.
To reiterate, you should already know whether you want to see a guy again while on a 1st date with him.
Why wait until he asks you out on a 2nd date a few days later?
Without letting him know where you stand by the end of the 1st date, he goes home exceedingly excited about the next date.
Over the course of the ensuing days, his excitement builds up to such a high level, he is substantially more susceptible to reacting in anger if you decline his offer for a 2nd date.
Save yourself from this grief.
The grief in knowing that you are about to disappoint him after letting his excitement build up for days, and the grief in knowing that he is likely to respond with the harshness that guys before him have exhibited upon learning you are declining his offer for a 2nd date.
Although he leaves the 1st date saddened or disappointed that you didn’t feel a romantic connection, he doesn’t berate you, and doesn’t leave the venue of the date with false hope that a 2nd date is imminent.