Having a FaceTime date that lasted 9 hours is a sign that the both of you are finding common interests and connecting.
This is a good sign.
But, you shouldn’t make this a habit this early.
People who get too overly excited about each other in the early stages of courtship and overdo it, tend to burn out quicker.
You met this guy on a dating app.
This means that the moment he senses burn out, he is compelled to get back on the dating app to see what else is out there.
A dating app provides a wealth of dating options, which makes it too easy for people to simply move on to the next person of romantic potential.
Too much intensity so early in the courting stage led to exhaustion.
He wants to meet someone else on the dating app who isn’t as overeager.
This is the risk you run into when you have too many Facetime dates that last several hours so early in courtship.
This amount of intensity sets a tone that is nigh impossible to maintain.
Erroneously, there is an expectation that this level of intensity will last forever.
It doesn’t.
It’s inevitable that the intensity tapers off.
This is when you two are coming down from that high and it is a shock to the system.
For the last few weeks, everything with this person has been at an 11, and now, all of sudden, it is at a 6.
It’s tough to acclimate yourself to that after such an intense beginning.
Once you reach this period, your mind believes that there isn’t much else to this person.
You have found out everything there is to know, and naturally, you get bored.
Soon, you are responding to each other’s messages less and less.
In the early stages of courtship, there is no emotional foundation.
An intense beginning is susceptible to running out of gas in a fairly short while.
This leads to boredom and a sense of disappointment, which causes the two of you to get back on the dating app to look for someone new.
Those people who gradually court each other without the early intensity, maintaining a steady and well-balanced level of communication, are less susceptible to experiencing boredom and disappointment down the line.
They do reach a point where the initial high they had for the person wears off, but it is replaced with a bond.
This bond was established as they were gradually getting to know each other and establishing an emotional foundation by so doing.
With this emotional foundation, they easily transition into the next stage of their relationship without having to go through a crash when that initial high has leveled out.
When you are having FaceTime dates that last many hours on a regular basis, you never give yourselves a chance to establish an emotional foundation.
Without this emotional foundation, when the high inevitable drops in a few weeks time, your courtship is practically over.
Avoid this predicament by prioritizing the quality of your conversations over their length.
Talk for an hour or so every few days.
Keep it substantive without being overdrawn.
This maintains a healthy back and forth exchange in the early stages so that you don’t burn each other out.